my gf is bipolar caused by an event that happened in the past. I really like her but it seems like she is always upset and makes it seem like her life isn't good. i try to help her as much as possible but im not sure what else i can do, and i am also going through family troubles and it is alot of stress.
what should i do or what can i do to mkae everything better or atleast some things
2006-10-29 10:41:59 · 8 answers · asked by j_pychel 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You have been misinformed about bipolar disorder. You should check this out if you are planning to have a relationship with this person. It is very important that you understand this disease. If you girlfriend had cancer wouldn't you want to know something about it? You can not make everything better. That is not reality. You can go to her counseling appt. with her. Learn more about why she has highs and lows, and learn to recognize them. If she is not going to a doc encourage her to get one now. If she won't, or makes excuses...It's your life, things won't get any better without meds.
2006-11-02 08:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Babyboomer 477 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar is genetic. It can be triggered by a stressful event, but not caused by one. I would suggest that you end the relationship. Life without bipolar would be much easier. You're not married, so this is the easiest time to end it. Even with treatment, bipolar makes it's presence known regularly. If your GF were an alcoholic would you stick around? I have bipolar and my advice is to find another girlfriend who is well. Why make life harder than it has to be?
2006-10-29 19:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by sushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that bipolar was "caused" by an event in the past. It can generally be treated and controlled by drugs but it's very, very difficult. Many folks with the disease feel good with drugs so they go off and back into the up and down cycle. It's tough to deal with it if you are stable and stress free so when you've got your own problems it's doubly difficult. Get your gf to a doctor skilled in the disease and counseling may help the two of you.
2006-10-29 19:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BP is often misdiagnosed. Of course, it may well be a correct diagnosis. Many times Autism, Aspergers, and many other conditions are confused with BP disorder. If she is taking meds, then that should help control the ups and downs. The best advise I can offer is to be stable and non confrontational while interacting with her.
It sounds more like depression than BP disorder.
2006-10-29 18:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing you can do for anyone this way is to stay level headed and put the worries in perspective for them. Be understanding, don't say ' You're just imagining .....,' that will bring them down. It all depends on how well u handle your own stress. You may need to consult a doc on this. Good luck to you both dude.
2006-10-29 18:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never be responsible for another persons illness. If she is or is not on medication and you can't handle the rollercoster that is bi-polar than maybe you need to get off.
Holding on is something only you can answer. If this is a serious relationship you can get counseling.
2006-10-29 20:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by aQTinMVny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not much you can do my wife is bipolar and you just have to take the good with the bad if she takes medication make sure she takes it and just be there for her when she needs you and when she needs her space give it to her but don't go to far love her when shes happy, love her even more when shes sad hyold her when she cries. thats all you can do
2006-10-29 18:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by nationalguard_mp_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try therapy together?
2006-10-29 18:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by tuskinini45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋