How should I deal with my boyfriend's controlling mother?

Question

I am in highschool and have been dating a guy for over a year now. I've met my match in him and we've talked about moving in together once we are out of highschool and (hopefully) going to the same college. His mother however is very controlling and as polite and as nice as I am to her, I get the vibe that she doesn't like me. It might have to do me living in the city and coming from a middle class family whereas they live in the perfect suburbs and have money to squander, whatever the reason even though my boyfriend and I have been dating for so long this weekend she complained I didn't invite her to my birthday party though I DID give her a verbal invite. When I wasn't around my boyfriend told me that she yelled and screamed at him for awhile about me and he of course defended me. Now he is grounded for a month and can not even talk to me until the month is up. I feel like its my fault that I should have done something more, but I don't know how to deal with her. What should I do?

Answer 1

His mother needs to realize that he's not 2 n/e more.There is enough control out there w/-out his mom adding to it.You need to have him tell her -when his month is up- that you invited her to your birthday party.Although,she may be making an excuse to be angry @ you because she dislikes you.If so,in this case,she needs to grow up herself.Her son's gonna have g/fs & there's nothing she or anyone else can do.When the month is over,maybe invite her & your b/f out to dinner.That way,she may be able to get to know you better & might realize that she shouldn't have acted the way she did.I hope this helped.Good luck.

Answer 2

Wait it out...once you guys are old enough then she can't do anything but as long as he's a minor she has a say. If you 2 really love eachother her meanness will only bring you both closer and you'll appreciate the moments when you 2 are together. I know it's tough but it's all you can do. What ever you do don't ever bad mouth her because it could turn around and back fire on you, meaning he could end up turning on you.

Answer 3

My boyfriend's stepmom is controlling as well.
We're in our early 20s for crying out loud.
Now THAT has "f*cked up" written all over.

Mainly, her concern is that my boyfriend will get me pregnant.
But everyone knows I'm waiting till we're married to even have sex.
His stepmom said she wouldn't have sex before marriage, and she ended up having sex anyways and getting pregnant.
So she pretty much thinks I'm exactly like her.
HELLLLLL NO.
She needs to trust my boyfriend.

But you know what?
You're just gonna have to deal with your guy's mom.
You're only in high school.
So I think she has more of a reason to be this way than if the guy was already an adult (like in my situation).