my bf, BILLY and i are having stressful times in our relationship due to my older brother and his conflicts. anytime BILLY calls the house for me, my brother constantly hangs up on him anytime he does. i believe my brother is just being a big brother and is a lil bit over protective, but BILLY believes it is my brother disrrespecting me. So now the respect i once had with my boyfriend is slipping away quickly. I realize I have to take a stand somewhere as far as what my brother does to the people i am involved with but i dont wanna make it seem like im choosing BILLY's side over my own brother...And my questions are: Is my older brother really disrespecting me in anyway like my man said? How can i get the respect back that my boyfriend and i once had? And how can i fix this whole thing!!!???
2006-10-29 10:31:05 · 13 answers · asked by Tee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one, without knowing all of the circumstances. Maybe sitting down alone with your brother and explaining that you love them both, but you are being torn between them would help.
Not knowing your age, i'm assuming you're a teenager...maybe also sit down with your parents at the same time (or another time), and have them lay down the law to your brother. If there's a legitimate concern, your parents should be able to address this appropriately.
Remember, by handling this maturely, you will prove to everyone involved that you are old enough to be trusted in a relationship. If they're being overprotective, either your bf has given them a reason, or they think you're too young. Either can be addressed appropriately...more so if you handle it like an adult.
2006-10-29 10:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by suziq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes your brother is disrespecting you by hanging up on your boyfriend! If he has a problem wit your boyfriend he should tell you what it is,so you guys can work it out.And that might also help get the respect back that the two of you once shared!And to fix the hole thing you might want to get the two of them together and talk things out and see what the two of them don't like about each other,and work out the differences.
2006-10-29 10:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're very, very close to your brother, you should be able to talk to him about this. He may be both a little protective or maybe a little jealous. Perhaps he just doesn't LIKE Billy. Have you asked your brother if he does, or if he doesn't.... why not? I don't know if he's being "disrespectful" or just overly concerned. Try talking to him about it....you don't have to tell Billy about your personal conversations with anybody, brother or friend.
2006-10-29 10:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line: Do not chase something that is not there. You will never be able to repair spiritual things that are not there. Your older brother wants to protect you. Ask him what qualities are missing (in his opinion) in your boyfriend. Digest it and then let your heart decide what is up. Good luck!
2006-10-29 10:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother is being protective of you there's a chance he knows something about your bf that will hurt you. and if your bf doesnt respect you why are you with him anyway. talk to both of them and find out what started this whole mess. the answers you get may surprise you
2006-10-29 10:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have not have been given a clue. I do think of your brother ought to offer a reason. I additionally think of that, even nevertheless he's your brother, that his place would not enable him to compliment who you bypass out with with out providing you with a valid reason. If there's a solid reason, your brother ought to assert so. or you need to tell your brother you're sorry yet without a solid reason it is your selection who you bypass out with. usually adults offend their mothers and dads and kin because of the fact the kin does no longer approve of their decision of a mate. At this factor in time you could desire to make your guy or woman decision and make the better of the region. it relatively is not good for kin to make that decision for you.
2016-10-20 23:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by dampier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i do not know if they meet each other before or not but if they meet each other before and they have some problem it is better to let them sort it out but if they have not see each other at all just tell your i would like to invate you for dinner with Billy. I am sure if you tell him kindly he will accept it and then talk to each other and see what is the problem.
I will keep my fingers cross for you.
2006-10-29 10:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jawad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister does the same thing to me and you know what i did i got a cell phone but if you cant do that try and tell your brother that thats disrespectful to you and to your boyfriend like seriously i know how you feel like theres not much you can say or do to change it but i mean your brother may not care what you think and wil continue to do it but nothing beats a failure but a try?
2006-10-29 10:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by j bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother that the next time he intercepts one of your phone calls you are going to sneak into his room late at night and bash his nutz with a baseball bat.....
2006-10-29 10:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother should not be hanging up phonecalls for you ESPECIALLY when he knows you want to get it. He is being disrespectful in that way for not respecting your feelings for your BF
Best of luck !
2006-10-29 10:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Youngling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋