i have 3 boys aged 15,13,12 i try to make them help around the house to let the know that nothing comes to use easy,people say i am to hard on them as they are boys they should be out and about they do go out like other boys and play footie and all that stuff but i think they should clean there rooms and learn to cook as i wont be here for ever ..wot is wrong with a boy learning to clean and cook am i right in wot i am doing or should i leave them to run wild (dont think so)
2006-10-29 10:12:33 · 29 answers · asked by SUSAN B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Teach your boys what a lot of men don't know and that is ....
The first rule of being a man is being able to take care of yourself , whether it's in a fight , at work or in the kitchen , only then will they be man enough to care for a family of their own .
2006-10-29 10:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing, absolutely. I'm always shocked today when these kids go off to college and university they have no clue how to cook, clean, sew on a button etc. I once worked as a supervisor in a store, one of the Saturday girls who was about 17 was on her break. She made herself a cup of tea the looked at me and held up the tea spoon looking puzzled. I pointed to the sink to say it need to be washed. She swished the spoon in the water and looked at me as if to say is that right?!!! Even after she washed it she was still holding it looking puzzled. I said you have to dry it and put it away, treat the tea room as you would your own home... keep it clean and tidy. Her reply I don't clean at home my mum has a cleaner!! Every child should be taught these skills its the basic foundation of living! My daughters are only 3 and they already help around the home. When I'm cleaning up they like a wet cloth to wipe everywhere down! Your sons will be grateful one day for all you have taught them. You are a great mum and there should be more like you!
2006-10-29 20:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lovewilltearusapart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live the life you want and teach your children your values. I did not ask any of my boys to help around the house, nor did I teach them to cook. Now, as husbands and fathers, they cook and clean and are the best Dads they know how to be. I do notice though that none of my grandchildren are asked to help with housework and I support my sons wholeheartedly.. P.S. They never ran wild and although from a council estate, all went on to further education and now have good jobs.
2006-10-29 10:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by oldbutwise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right, why shouldn't they learn to cook and clean. When they grow up and get married, their wives are going to be very pleased with you, I know I am with my mother in law! My husband helps alot around the house, we both work and I don't think that I should have to do everything, so good on you for making your boys responsible adults!
2006-10-29 19:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by sarah a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right but I remember my mum trying to get me to clean my room, i did by just chucking everthing under the bed or just shoving it in the draws. As for cooking it is vital that they learn the basics, cos my last two girlfriends would have difficulty making a pot noddle and my friends gfs are useless too, just goes to show how things are changing between men and women today compaired to 50 years ago - then they (women) would have been expected to be able to cook.
2006-10-29 10:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by SCOTT B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing anything wrong. If someone lives in a household (regardless of whether they live with parents or roommates), they should do their share of the work. More mothers should teach their sons how to cook and clean and make sure they know that women were not born to serve them.
2006-10-29 11:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are very right cleaning and cooking is not just a girls job men need to learn to do it to i think your doing a great job with your boys keep it up
2006-10-29 10:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Chanti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to teach your children how to take care of themselves. There can be balance. After they have done their chores and done what is on the list of things to do then they get to have fun and do what they want to do. My boyfriends mother had them cook and clean and learn how to save money. She has three wonderful boys that have more to brag about than most men their age. He treats me good, cooks, cleans and owns his own house. So if you want them to grown up to be well rounded men then you need to show them how to take care of themselves and others.
2006-10-29 17:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by rozepetal23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done...You are being responsible... Balance is the key when they've tidied up then they can go out to play... I was too soft on my child and I ended up frustrated. As a single mum I ended up doing everything myself... my fault I should have stood my ground. Hopefully they will grow up and help their future wives and children instead of thinking life is a playground. Keep up the good parenting !
2006-10-29 11:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are totally right. people need to get with the times nowadays. boys and girls are equal in our world and should know how to look after themselves. as you said you wont be around forever and girls now arent like the ones in the 60s, 70s etc... they dont stay at home wanting to look after there men they are a new generation. so keep teaching them to do the things you are telling them. one day they will thank you for.
2006-10-29 21:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋