depression sex?

Question

my boyfriend just broke up with me and we had been together for ever and i thought we were really in love, im still in love with him but he said that ive changed a lot, i have, im depressed and he didnt like it when i drank...so he broke up with me but we are still friends

i want to go out and have sex with every guy i know but at the same time i dont know what he will say/think if my ex finds out, will me going out with a whole bunch of guys ruin a second chance with him?

have any of yall had "depression sex" as my friend calls it? what was it like? did you feel better?

Answer 1

DO NOT DO THIS! You will hate yourself afterward, and probably ruin any chance you have of getting back with your ex.

My father -- a former substance abuse counselor -- would describe "depression sex" as a self-medicating behavior. Basically, it's something you do to take your mind off of the real problem. It is, psychologically speaking, no different from drinking, compulsive gambling or doing drugs. And the truth is, it isn't sex that you want. You want that feeling that you used to get from the relationship. You won't get that from meaningless sex with a series of strangers.

You have some real issues here, and they need to be dealt with in a healthy manner. Pleasepleaseplease don't go out there and do something that could leave you dead or infected with a terrible disease. Get some counseling if you can, but failing that you need to talk this out with someone you trust. Don't throw away your self-respect for the sake of an emotional band-aid. You deserve better, for yourself and from yourself.

Answer 2

Baby, please listen to me. DO NOT DO THAT!!!!! You will surely live to regret it. I promise you. I don't know how many people you have been with, but being with more is NOT the answer. Respect yourself. Maybe you have changed a lot. Maybe not. That is really not the issue. The issue is that, once you are intimate with another man, you can NEVER take that back. Once it is done, it is done. I know we live in 2006, but someday, the number of people you have been with will matter to someone--and that will be someone you TRULY love and care about. Do you want to have to tell that person that you have been with X number of people? No, you don't. If he truly loves you, he will ask--not because he is unsure of his own "thingy," but because this tells him what kind of life you have led before you knew him. He'll ask what they had, how big it was, what you did, and whether it was cut or not. Do you really want to have to relive that? Or, would it be better if you only had a couple of people to tell him about? I think the latter would be more conducive to a blooming relationship than having to rehash and relive mistakes of the past. You only have one life to live. We only get one shot at this. What we do in the present significantly affects our future and becomes part of our past! Always remember that!!!!! Good luck, and may God bless you in everything you do. Please make the right decisions.

Answer 3

Well , I used to call it hoochin

We'd go to the bar and make out with dozens of guys, but no sex just makin out.

I think its ok, but not to have sex.

Sex should no be so promiscuous . to dangerous if your askin me.

But hoochin is fun and the worst i ever got from kissing is a sore throat

Oh and it would definately ruin any chance of getting back with the EX- he seems the picky sort since he broke up with you because your depressed.

Good luck and don't have too much sex

Answer 4

For one thing he definitely won't like it.

He is trying to find excuses to dislike you at this very point. He is trying to assure himself that his breaking up with you was the right thing to do. If you go and have depression-sex with other guys then that will be the excuse he is looking for... and he will feel far more justified about his choice. Not only that but if you ask him to take you back at a later point, he might well use that against you.

Of course on the flip side you COULD just decide once and for all to give up on him and go have that sex. It might actually be the emotional release you need and be better for your psychological health in the long-run.... but once you do it there will be no going back...


.....Unless he is one of those weirdos who gets off on that sorta stuff....

Answer 5

Yes it will ruin your chance with him. Remember, there is no such thing as a guy friend. Given the chance they will sleep with all of their so called girl friends. NEVER TRAVEL DOWN THE SAME ROAD TWICE..... There are to many options out there. And you will always be able to find someone whos better in every way. Unless your getting close to 30, then your options slowly begin to narrow.... :-)

Answer 6

he would probably think that ur a hoe if u did that and he probably wouldnt give u a sencond cahnce and no i have im still a virgin

Answer 7

give me a call and we do it. he will never find out and it will make both of us feel better!