Can I beat depression without speaking about it to anyone?

Question

I have been offered meds and councelling but dont want any of it, i dont want to sit and say how i feel, is this normal? can i just carry on and beat depression without any help? Im really shy and find it really difficult to explain how i feel to my friends how will i cope with this, any advice?

Answer 1

No, just the opposite.

You cannot beat depression alone; I know this cause I tried for many months and ended up failing more drastically than I would have if I took the opposite route and just talked to people who cared about it.

If you have a good set of friends and family, talk to them about it as much as possible.

If those same people are part of the cause of your depression, then it would be better for you to go with the counselling, and only use the meds if your doctor and/or your psychologist find your depression is biologically controlled.

Answer 2

You're right that 15 is a vulnerable age for depression. Some of it is hormonal and some is situational. You may find relief if you can hook in to a part-time job in the next year. That can boost self-esteem and give you a little spending power and social connections. You can also try meeting basic health goals - like exercise, eating healthy and setting a regular sleep pattern. It's a drag being 15, but you really can beat depression. It happens to more people than you realize.

Answer 3

When you discover that talking about your problems raises the emotional level again. Those emotions are going to be implanted into the deep recesses of the mind (along with all the others) when you continue to think or discuss the problems you face.. Until those triggers (buried within the mind) get removed, talking will do very little good.

Knowing these buried emotions are stored within the subconscious level of the mind, they can and do have an effect on other functions also. That part of the mind is what controls many bodily functions.. it gives the orders. If you keep implanting all those negatives, the subconscious does not discern whether it is a positive or negative order.. it just puts it to work.

Answer 4

Depending how confident in yourself you are. Common sense and the ability to see things clearly is a great asset to have. I was raped when I was 19...I didnt want to go to the Police, I didnt want to discuss this with anyone...I was just so damned embarrassed and I thought everyone would blame me. I wasnt prepared to talk about it with anyone. I had a few bad times but me thinking about it constantly and also reading about rape helped me immensely. I had to put what had happened to me into perspective, I had to come to terms with the fact that it was not my fault. I counselled myself, and it worked. I am now a very healthy 52 year old who doesnt have many hagups at all. So, yes, it is very possible to beat whatever it is you are feeling. But you really have to have the need to fix whatever is wrong. You have to be open to everything. You have to question yourself, then give yourself some good sound solid advice. If I had felt sorry for myself and didnt try to find an answer then I think I would be pretty screwed up right now. I had to find reasons that would sit right in my head. Common-sense and reading helped me a great deal. You need to be able to put everything into perspective. You also have to be realistic and dont be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself time to feel down. Allow yourself time to grieve....just let your feelings wash over you, then when enough is enough start the healing process. Read books, read about people who have been in a similar situation that you are in. It is very possible. I know of a lot of people who have been able to get over their depression because of good logical thinking. In saying that, however, some depression is so severe that it makes a "normal" persons thinking processes very warped and it is impossible for that person to see things clearly and to think logically. If you have lost all sense of reality, then maybe you need to swallow your pride and talk to someone about it. If you are shy and feel you cannot talk to a good friend, then seek out a counsellor. No-one needs to know that you are doing this because everything between you and the counsellor is totally confidential. And a counsellor will not care if you are shy. Remember these people are experts and deal with all kinds of things on a daily basis. The counsellor will know how to get you talking, they do it on a regular basis. Only you can decide if you are able to see things clearly and logically to work out whether you can help yourself. If you are an intelligent logical person, you can do it...but if that logic is gone then you need to seek some help.

Dont wait too long though because depression has a tendency to take a good hold on you. Good luck.

Answer 5

I really don't think so. I speak as one who has "been there, done that". I let it go on to the point that I tried to get out of life and wound up in the hospital (voluntarily). I stayed there for a month. No matter how hard it seems, it is best to get it out and look at it and try to deal with the causes. Medications can help, but for me, they just made me not think about it and I finally had to open up and get it out. It is hard to trust anyone else with one's inner feelings, but I think that it is impossible to do beat it without help.
Good luck....

Answer 6

If it doesn't go away soon, go to the doctor. I know it may be hard to talk about, but you may be surprised to find out how common depression is and how easily it can be cured - just a pill a day. If you want to, visit some internet sites such as the ones below to make you more comfortable with your depression.

Answer 7

It is very difficult to deal with otherwise. As much as I would seriously advise seing someone and taking medication, you should try to go outside alot and be with people that make you happy. I have had depression for years now and I am very shy and do think the way you do but I still went to counceling and I am feeling much better now. I try to explain my depression to my friends by saying that I am often sad for no reason whatso ever. I hope this helps.

Answer 8

Its possible....but it the depression is too great you may need aids to help. Millions of people are depressed and work through it them selves and don't seek help, but this does not mean its the best remedy.

Answer 9

You're correct. Those people don't have any real ability to help you, IMO. Check out this page and click on the sections where it talks about depression:

http://search.freefind.com/find.html?id=45895468&_charset_=utf-8&bcd=%C3%B7&scs=1&pageid=r&query=depression&mode=Find+pages+matching+ALL+words

Answer 10

don't go it alone if you don't have to- got a friend to talk to? then talk- but if that makes you uncomfortable- talk to GOD, he does listen- been in your shoes- never did the meds either- but if you get so sad that you do not want to live anymore- then you need to get help- and sometimes if your body is missing a nutrient it can make you depressed- study about it- patient heal thyself-with prayer also! the devil can make you sad too- get the behind me satan!!!