me and my bf have just broke up causde of uni and him being so far away we are on good terms and stuff and it ws all mutual! but i dont kno wt to do now! i still have feelings about him! and we chat once of twice a week? but how do i deal with it now??
2006-10-29 09:45:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to hear that
I think that time is a great healer, if you are meant to be together than one day you will be but ovs it is not a good time for you both at the moment.
Surround your self with family and friends, keep busy,
You will be happy and eventually you will meet someone new but at the moment just take some time out and when you have given yourself some time you will be happy again
good luck and you will get over this i promise
2006-10-29 09:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the infamous words of Carrie from Sex and the City,
"Can you get to your future if your past is present?"
And to this I answer no. I have missed out what could have been some great dates because I continued holding on to something I knew was no more. I think most of the time it is just easier to settle for something familiar.
The best thing you can do is to take a break from it all until you get your feelings sorted. There is absolutely no reason you two need to stop being friends, but my suggestion to you is to try to move on and see it for just that, a long distance friendship.
I know it's hard, but believe me... the faster you disconnect, the easier it will become. Oh and just a sidenote of something a friend said to me when I was going through something similar: " The fastest way to get over someone is to get on top of another," LOL It's true!!!
2006-10-29 10:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having been on the other side of that, I know how it feels. If it really is mutual, and it really is over, please don't string him along, that doesn't help him or you move on. If you still both care about each other, there is often a temptation not to tell the other if you start a new relationship, but sometimes you need the finality of that to get closure and move on. If you can look inside yourself and admit that it really is over (and long distance relationships are always hard) then try to go out with the girls and meet a new man. if you have someone to fill the space, it really does help. If deep down you know its not over, then you really need to see if you can make it work (depends how long his course is etc, but be aware that he will be meeting a lot of new people, and may change as a person in the new environment).My advice would be that either way, it's fairer on both of you if you try to move on.
2006-10-29 10:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are tricky and your decision to separate may have been the correct one. However the fact that you still have feelings is not really surprising. You split due to the fact that you felt that the relationship wouldn't last, not that it hadn't lasted.
The best thing to do is get on with your life at uni, it is a fantastic opportunity to meet new people and have new experiences. You might meet someone new, you might not. If you get to christmas and neither of you have met someone new then why not think about getting back together?
2006-10-29 10:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by pab76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being a kid your along time an adult with responsibilities.
Now is the time to party and have fun make many many friends male and female, explore yourself and others before you get into the world of 9 to 5. Iknow I would love to turn the clock back, because now Im older, boy would I do things different.
2006-10-29 14:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by stunner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take some time for yourself. Life is not just having a boyfriend. Life is lot more then that. Learn from nature and give back to nature, society. Do something worth of your life and help poor and needy people of this earth. You will find a lot of peace within and your life will be noble and worth.
2006-10-29 09:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by dotab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends. You never know what will happen. My sister broke up with her boyfriend when he went to Australia for a year but stayed friends but they got back together 6 months after he returned and now they are planning to get married.
If you dont get back to gether then he is not the right one for you.
2006-10-29 09:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start writing a long, interesting letter all about what's happening, and then post it off; it will give you something to focus on.. if you guys are chatting once a week, seems to me that it's not over entirely, so take advantage of that and write interesting letters to him!
Worth a shot, alright?!
2006-10-29 09:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by littlebritfan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your main concern now is uni. That's what it's about after all. Another relationship will come along and you'll meet up again and things may or may not be different. Worry about it then.
2006-10-30 00:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have broken up then find someone else.
If the distance is just making it difficult but you both want to still be together then hang on, see each other as much as possible and ride it out.
The only problem is that either of you may find someone else, is that likely?, how strong is your bond.
Hope that helps
2006-10-29 09:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mark T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋