to stay over with him. Is it ok to take this personally and feel very offended? Cause I do.
2006-10-29 09:41:49 · 10 answers · asked by gx2l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a typical expression of the sexual double standard that women are constrained from sex and viewed negatively if they have it, while men are encouraged to have sex and are viewed positively if they have it. Maybe you could bring this up with your mom and assure her you are behaving responsibly and having safe sex (assuming you are). Talking about things openly and in a calm way with your mom will help more than attacking out of anger. Good luck.
2006-10-29 09:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anna D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The issue here is not that your parents are letting your brother spend the night with his girlfriend. The issue is actually the danger that both you and your brother will be facing in the long run whenever the time comes for your both to consider getting married (if that's what you want). From my own personal experience and those of others, there is this feeling of regret about being that intimate with our significant others. Well, I guess it's because there is this very sacred and special part of us that we are giving to another person (physically and emotionaly) who may not even be Mr./Mrs. Right. Of course, that doesn't mean that your supposed to marry the first guy you date. Not at all. But when you respect your body and your boyfriend's body, he will start to respect your high standard for commitment. You're not just his girlfriend then. You're a woman of dignity and real, selfless love because you are putting the welfare of your boyfriend and yourself first before your own personal desires. I know it's hard to be away from someone you really care about (tell me about it!). I've made mistakes in the past, and made a resolution not to put myself through that torture ever again. Now, I realized that it is definitely worth the wait. I have finally met Mr. Right and am getting married to him next summer with a clear conscience and a deep level of commitment that I've never had before. :) God bless.
2006-10-29 10:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need alittle more specifics..
How old is ur brother compared to u?
Does your mother not trust your bf? if its not the age thing..
And what is your mothers reasoning for letting ur brother have over night guests but not u..
AND ABOVE ALL REMEMBER THIS IS YOUR MOTHERS HOUSE FAIR OR NOT HER HOUSE HER RULES..
Need alittle more info before i can give u a reasoning for why she's doing this
2006-10-29 09:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is older then that is why.Plus we woman have live through the double standard for many years.It's okay for a man to have tons of sex but if a woman does it then we are labeled as no good. You are a girl and more then that u are daddy's girl so forget it .He will never let it happen.
2006-10-29 09:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents are less strict on the boys my brothers dad use to sa because the oy csn up and leave a baby but a gurl has t carry the baby and has no choice
2006-10-29 10:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by take it or leave it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexy Brown eyes took the words right out of my mouth. Lack of info and the fact that this your mothers house.
2006-10-29 09:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex under your parents roof, shows a lack of respect, plain and simple.
2006-10-29 10:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by jupitor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mums thesame and i'm twenty and have been with him for four years so its clearly jus parents, i think most of them are psycho
2006-10-29 10:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by String of pearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are and it depends on your age.
2006-10-29 10:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your age
2006-10-29 09:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋