ok. to start out, I'm 15 years old. kinda young for what im about to ask, but its how i feel. so im going to ask...
I was with my boyfriend (my first real bf) for a year. On Friday, he broke up with me and at first it wasnt really bothering me, just cause for about...the previous 2 weeks, he had been acting like a total jerk. We had broken up before this, and i had been devestated that time..
anyway, i feel like I'm never going to find someone who means as much to me, and who I love as much as him. like.. ever in life. like...you know what im saying?
its probably a stupid feeling, since im pretty young... but i need help.. anyone got advice? or words of wisdom?
ps. please dont be rude... im not really up to that right now.
2006-10-29 09:36:30 · 17 answers · asked by kittylover61891 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Kitty,
I am sorry you are feeling bad...but the good part is....it wont last...even tho at 15 your love seems like it will last forever,,,it seldom does. the people we are interested in at 15 are NOT the people we are interested in at 20 or 30 or 40....you will probably...like the rest of us...fall in love several times...you might possibly fall in love in the deepest sense once or twice in a lifetime...all I can offer is this...hold your head up and know that you WILL meet someone that you will love more than this guy and you probably wont even remember this guys name.
2006-10-29 09:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off its good that you are 15 and learning now as opposed to being 30 and learning what loss of love means and feels like... ok so here are a few things I can tell you for sure...
1. Its a learning experience
2. It might hurt now, but youll slowly come to terms with it
3. Youll eventually move on to bigger and better things
4. This will happen more than once
5. Its a good thing you feel this way, it means you have emotions and are in tune with yourself
The list goes on and on and on, but hey, you need to learn that on your own. Just find a healthy outlet. If you play guitar, start playin some more... play some music if you like music (pick a song that will make you feel better), watch a movie that you can relate to, cry about it, read a book, go out with friends, talk to someone about it, write about it... just go through the process. Without the process... well... you wont learn anything from it or how to deal with it for next time :)
2006-10-29 17:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by cute_smartass05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, It is going to feel like the end of the world for a while.Trust me you will get over it and move on to another. Getting your heart broke is awful that is why young first love is so hard to deal with. You will learn as you grow that it does get easier and healing time gets shorter. Go get a pint of Ben and Jerry's, call some girl friends over watch some sappy movies, cry and get on with your life. If he was a jerk for 2 weeks before, then he isn't really worth more than that.You deserve better.
2006-10-29 17:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to miss a bf. After all, you must have liked him at least a little bit if you dated him. But if he broke up with you, it's not nesesarily a bad thing, because being single is fun. You have so much freedom. And, you can get a nother bf, a better one. If you still miss ur old bf, ask if you can just be friends. Good luck!
2006-10-29 17:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Becca M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that you feel this way, but you are going to get over this...like you said-your young. and when you grow up what you want in a guy may be different than what it is now. there is going to be another guy out there that you can love even more! trust me! i was in love with this guy when i was your age, and when we broke up i felt the same way, but there are way too many guys out there for you to never love again! i found new love, and you will too! it may hurt right now, but over time you will heal and then you find your real Mr. Right.
2006-10-29 17:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being 15 and emotional things can be serious and hurt. But as I look back, I see how things were for my own good. Maybe it led me to better things.
It seems hard at first and it does take awhile to find someone else, but it doesn't do any good to dwell on it.
You can't make someone care. Try to be with good friends. It's definately not good to get serious ....you have plenty of time.
2006-10-29 17:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by 4263 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah babe you are real young!!! and your too young to know that your first "real" love is going to be the hardest "real" love because they never last. You will move on and find someone else and it is going to be hard because you will never losse thoes feeling for your first love.... But never forget that things are always great the second time around!
Kisses
Cairo
2006-10-29 17:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Cairo St. James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young, so trust me when I say that you will get over him. As you get older you will be better equiped to handle these situations and all of your failed relationships (hopefully not that many) will be a learning experience. The right one for you is out there and it will take many frog before you find your prince.
2006-10-29 17:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by goaliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try to forget about him, move on, and eventually you will find someone else, probably even better than this boy. Good Luck!
2006-10-29 17:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dke 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To help you with your break up, just stay calm, think happy thoughts, just wait a month or two after your breakup, and then try getting back together again.
2006-10-29 17:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by BlakeLewisfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋