I've been married to my wife for almost six years now. I wasnt a Christian back then. I married her because I wanted to give our daughter a chance to grow up in a family, (she was born out of wedlock) We've been seperated for the last year and actually we've been seperated 3 times in the past.The reason we seperate is because I accepted Jesus and want to live according to the bible, My wife got saved too but she preffered to go back into the world and just wants to be wild. Each time there is another guy involved.
I pretty much gave up on this relationship im just trying to scrape up money for a divorce.
My wife has been with some guy now and is moving on with her life, she tells me I should move on and date other women. My question is would i be out of line to date giving that in realty this marriage is over. ( I dont want her back). and what would a christian women think? Ive been approached already by a christain singles, any input would help
2006-10-29 09:36:17 · 12 answers · asked by klrb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always turn down offers to date, I wouldnt dare put myself in a situation like that, but what about events like having dinner and meeting at places like b-days etc etc.
2006-10-29 09:48:24 · update #1
The choice is yours whether to date or not but from a biblical standpoint I would say to wait until your divorce is final. As it sounds as if you want God at the head of all you do then showing your daughter the principles you want to live by would be a very positive thing. I can understand your wanting to move on with your life. I would hope you have worked thru all your issues with relationships and your ex. if there was adultery you do have biblical grounds for divorce. As unpopular as this will be to many people, I would say wait until your divorce is final. You are then completely free to give yourself to another relationship. Your ex will of course tell you to move on in the same manner as she has..think about why she might say that.
2006-10-29 09:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Allie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible makes it clear that divorce is not an option except in cases of marital infidelity, which it sounds like applies here. Even if you don't want her back, if you felt there was a way to try to reconcile, I think the Christian thing to do would be to try. But you've stated that because of her, that won't happen. So there is nothing wrong with you dating, after you get divorced. What will Christian women think? Well, we're all human. Some of us judge others unfairly, some don't. Given the circumstances, I think most women will be very understanding. Now, you could also take Paul's advice: If you can avoid marriage and intimate relationships, do it, but if you can't, it's better to get married than lust all the time. Good luck.
2006-10-29 09:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by ::ponders:: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't actually date until my divorce was finalized. Coffee or lunch with someone is a good idea. But always be upfront and honest with whomever you get involved with it is the only way. Legally you are still married in the eyes of the state. Talk to a lawyer and see what your options are for a quick divorce if you have been separated for over a year already then it shouldn't be a problem if both parties don't contest it.Pray about it God will give you answers.
2006-10-29 09:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only grounds for divorce according to the bible is adultry and that has happened in you case then you can file for divorce. About dating other people you can but that has to wait untill your divorce has been made final ,so that you dont fall into the same sin as your wife because legally you would still be husband and wife.
2006-10-29 09:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Obria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I am considered older or not? I'm a 35 year old female. I think you should wait until you are divorced to start dating. It is the right thing to do.
2006-10-29 09:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think you should wait until your divorce is finalized. This is a rough and sticky situation that you are in. I really do applaud you for not playing with religion and taking it very seriously. Good luck to you and I hope you find someone who loves you and accepts your beliefs.
2006-10-29 09:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by gateach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be divorced before you start to date. As a Christian woman, I would not date you unless you were truly available for a relationship.
2006-10-29 09:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to be fair and maintain a clear conscience, wait until the divorce is final. Until then, nothing wrong with being friends.
2006-10-29 09:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank yu for your "high idea of marriage".
For yur question: yu have to get divorced....to avoid to lead a sinful life !!!! God bless yu .
2006-10-29 10:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT SAYING I'M A CHRISTIAN BUT I WAS RAISED IN THE CHURCH. YOUR MARRIAGE IS OVER BUT DON'T TEMP THE DEVIL. BECAUSE IF HE SEE YOU WEAKLING OR PUTTING YOURSELF IN A BAD PLACE YOU IS SITTING YOURSELF UP TO FAIL. MY ADVICE DON'T DATE AND GROW IN CHRIST. GOD IS THE BEST JUDGE AND HE WILL SEND YOU SOMEONE JUST FOR YOU. DON'T BE IN A HURRY TO JUMP BACK IN A RELATIONSHIP. LET GOD BE IN CONTROL
2006-10-29 09:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by SweetAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋