lately i seem to have no energy to do things with my christian friends i know they are only trying to help but they seam to be so fake by doing bad things in secret then acting pure as snow!
i dont want to go to church anymore or weekly bible studies when i used to love them whats wrong with me?
please dont send nasty answers back! thanks xxxxx
2006-10-29 09:33:37 · 36 answers · asked by vixon 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
wow! I am going thru the same thing, well kinda, my church friends and I used to be sooo close outside of church, but now they dont talk to me at church, or outside. I guess its because people change. dont worry, keep going, and see what happens, if they dont stop then maybe try telling them in person what your feeling
2006-10-29 09:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by ocfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the way I would answer a question like this...
Are you going to bible study for them, or to learn about God?
Most often times, the problem with churches or any type of organized religion is that, people place themselves in a position of authority and end up on some kind of a pedestal.
The truth is, we are all human and we are all going to do good and bad things It doesn't mean that anybody has a free pass to to wrong, knowing that they can ask God to forgive them and all will be well. But, if you believe that we were born with a Sin nature, you would have to expect that we are all going to fall short at one point or another.
My point is, when you go to learn about God, keep your focus on him and not so much what is going on with the people around you. You are not there to please them or prove anything to them. Also, if they try to offer you all kinds of advice, check it out yourself by reading the bible and use your own judgment. You can pretty much tell when you are doing right or wrong.
I believe that most of the people who go to bible studies or church really do have a will to do the right thing, but we are all human and we are going to mess up.
Don't let the little things take you off of the whole point of going in the first place. If you feel that you are learning something new spiritually, that is what's important.
I believe that it is always important to question what people tell you no matter what postiion that they are inv (they will always have an opinion), grab a bible and find out for yourself. Then you know you are doing the right thing and you can feel comfortable about your decision.
One last point.... People always have something that they don't like about their church or the doctrine that they teach, but unless it is really off, learn what you can. Don't use it as an excuse to do nothing. I believe that it pleases God when you learn more about him, it doesn't mean that you have to be like robot all doing the exact same thing. The whole point of fellowship is that by all having a common goal, you can help keep everyone strong, learn and grow together. The part where people always fall short is when they think they know it all and close thier mind to possiblities.
In the end though, it's between you and God, so keep your focus on him.
2006-10-29 09:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by wscarpelli@sbcglobal.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it has a great deal to do with the friends doing what you have described in your question. And seeing this type of behavior from people who profess to be Christan's is very disturbing and disheartening. However, we must keep in mind that as Christan's we are a work in progress, we are only human. Perhaps you could look for another church to attend. Somewhere you can feel more comfortable and you should pray for your friends, none of us are perfect and even adults who call themselves christian have issues dealing with what is right and wrong. Good luck and God bless, Please do not give up on God give yourself some serious time involved in prayer.
2006-10-29 09:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should anything be wrong with you? Perhaps you feel there is more to life. Why not take a holiday? You don't need to go anywhere. Just take some time out, and have some me time.
Maybe it would help you to think about when you first began to feel like this. Was there a particualr catalyst?
Most people question their faith. Your relationship with your god will always be there for you to go back to, however you choose it to be in the future..
Good luck.
2006-10-29 09:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just growing up happened to me too i also went to church
but know i only go when i need to feel blessed it's a phase. If i don't get enough sleep the other night i usually make myself the biggest breakfast in the morning for energy (not to fall asleep during any thing ) Then when i get home IMMEDIETELY jump into bed and let my body rest for 2 or more hours. But now my life is back on track i
do't feel tired or lo in energy ! this might not be what you're looking for but i'm just sayin'...
2006-10-29 09:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by transgenic5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I am not a Christian (I am Jewish) it sounds like you aren't having a religious issue, but rather an issue with the people involved in your religious activities. Maybe you need to think about finding somewhere else to attend bible study and/or church...someplace that "fits" you better than "fake people doing bad things in secret then acting pure as snow?"
2006-10-29 09:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by tazmo1 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I agree with some of the other posts on here - it doesn't seem to be a belief problem you're having, but more a problem you're having with how OTHER people are living with supposedly the same beliefs as you. The fact that you recognise their behaviour as being wrong is a good thing - it means that you understand your own belief systems, and realise that they aren't gelling with these people. Maybe you need to find a new church/bible study group with people who are more on your wave length.
2006-10-29 09:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by brownbug78 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Muslim and from what it seems your friends are not true Christians this should not be a reflection of your faith but maybe it is causing you to step back from your faith.
If you try and continue to go to church and bible studies you will hopefully meet some nice people who are a good representations of Christians x
2006-10-29 09:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
non Christians are more likely to do bad things in the open. Religious people tend to try and hide the bad things in their life. I don't think your friends should go around telling everyone about their sins, but its a shame they don't feel they can confide in you. The reason we need church and bible studies is to be able to share our lives and how to make ourselves more like Christ- don't give up- hang on in there!
2006-10-30 04:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by trebor88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to spend time with hypocritical people either. It's one thing to sin, be remorseful, and try not to do it again. It's another to have a life of sinning in secret and acting pure on the outside.
I think it's time to find new friends. One who will be honest about their failures, and who will encourage everyone in their successes. Then I think you'll find a renewed energy. Try spending some alone time in the word and prayer, then find some people who want to live as true disciples of Christ.
2006-10-29 09:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by The Non-Apologetic Apologist 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋