He told me at a party he invited me too. Keep in mind I was drunk, stoned, and had PMS. When I found out I started crying. I felt so many different things, confusion, anger, hurt I can't even explain it. Am I wrong for how I am feeling about this? I've also been seeing him for a week. I do like him and he wants to continue seeing me. I would like to see him. I'm afraid that he couldn't handle a relationship with me because he just starting a relationship with his daughter because he found out 3 months ago that he had a kid. I'm feelin a lot of different things and he thinks I'm mad at him for it which I"m really not. How should I proceed
2006-10-29 09:27:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say give it a try if you like him how would youfeel if you had a child and he had second thoughts about dating you i have a daughter and my boyfriend never thought twice about it if you like him and he likes you support him in getting to know his daughter talk to him work it out weather you stay friends or more than just friends its ok to feel this way but is it that he didnt tell you or is that you dont want to be with someone who has a child you have decide good luck need to talk email me
2006-10-29 09:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by icecoldpolar7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rather believe you're making this a miles larger deal than it should be. First of all you ought to discover a companion after which perhaps ask this Q if you're suffering however you're hanging method to a lot vigour into this difficulty at this degree. There is not anything mistaken with assembly a man and simply explaining jokingly, "in order that you already know I NEVER wish children" and he's going to giggle it off and also you simply answer, no significantly, do not wana freak you out or get all deep, simply notion you must realize! Most people will simply admire your honnesty and if he does not then whats the factor in making an investment anymore time at the man? Just get it out early on within the courting and also you do not have some thing to pressure approximately. Good good fortune.
2016-09-01 04:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
first of ll,how old are you ? Because if you are 16 or 18,you not ready to be in a situation like that.In this case you should enjoy your life and let him try to find a older woman.But in another situation,is not the end of world when a men has a child.Put your head up, and try to see life the way how is it,heard,precious,and sometimes just beautiful.Nobody ( women ) are prepare this kind of surprise,we are very egoist and just want to have the attention and love from this one Men.Now do the math, count what he has done for you,positive and negative,ALWAYS try to remember that this relation sheep started WRONG.Nothing that started with a lie can be good.
Hugs
Maria
2006-10-29 09:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been seeing him for a week and you find out that he has a child... Whats the problem with that? Lots and lots of people have children. Unless he's married to the mother then I think you're being silly by freaking out about it. Did you expect him to be a virgin and have no history? I don't understand what your issue is.
2006-10-29 09:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only one week, so u need to see if you want to gamble with your heart. Can you handle this? He has a big responsiblity that you should not come in front of AT ALL. That doesn't mean he can not manage to give you attention and "love" you need. But if your not willing to share and let this child get to know her father than u should walk now before it gets worst on ur heart, their hearts...Good luck
2006-10-29 09:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl.......... you have a problem. It doesn't mater if the person your dating got kids, or when they found out about it. If you like this guy as you say, you should like everything that comes along. specially kids. Sounds to me like is not love. And you just met the guy. Remember this...... One day you will have kids and pray you stay with the father. Is very painfull knowing that the next guy dont like your kids. What does that tell you? If you dont love my kids, you don't love me. gl and live life :)
2006-10-29 09:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by angelica b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it really bothers you. So in this case, it is safe to say that you should end the relationship as you might harbour hatred /resentment towards his child for taking his time away from you.
2006-10-29 09:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you can live with the fact that he has a child then you should still see him and show support for him taking proper steps in raising his kid. show him that your not mad, he told you at the wrong time. you two should have been alone and sober.
2006-10-29 09:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by cr4is2py0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO FEEL THIS WAY, BUT DON'T LET IT GET IN THE WAY OF A GOOD REALATIONSHIP. BE GLAD THAT HE DO WANT TO BE IN HIS LITTLE GIRLS LIFE MANY MEN WOULDN'T. JUST TAKE EVERY THING SLOWLY.
2006-10-29 09:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by SweetAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋