mainly anger and rage from alot of emotional damage that was done to you in earlier life..im due to see a psychiatrist soon and all i care about is getting well and recovering. i deal with mainly alot of angry feelings towards people. really low moods that floor me. i cant do anything or go anywhere. and i feel lonely and isolated. its been like this for over 10 years im 29 now and im always worrying over and over. worrying i wont achieve my goals..worrying i wont get my needs met ever. i have such low self esteem to. i wanna girlfriend and to live in nice surrounds with nice job. but i worry that wont ever happen...can anybody ever find their way back after all this? am i labelled now and tarnished now ive been in the system? is my life ruined? i was in a mental hospital 8 years ago for 18months, is my life over now can i not do anything or go anywhere?
2006-10-29 09:15:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Mental Health issues are misunderstood. Mental health issues usually arise because of some trauma in our lives, and in your case that is exactly what has happened. You werent born this way....a series of events led you to be this way...so if you werent born this way, then yes, you have every reason to believe you can be "normal" again. You may need medication to help you cope, but that doesnt mean you are crazy. If you want everything you say you do then you will get it. Its your need that will make you get everything you desire. One thing I implore you not to do....dont put yourself in the crazy basket...you are not crazy, you have reacted to the negative forces around you the only way you knew how. Dont allow professional people to categorise you. You are a human being with the same opportunities we all have. Unfortunately the things that happened to you throughout your life prevented you from persuing these opportunities. It is not too late...come to terms with whatever happened to you, put it in its place. The people who caused you all this mental anguish are the real offenders. Its just a shame that you are the one suffering because of the the actions of another person/people. Look at it like this.....do you think you would be feeling this way now if you were born into a different family and didnt suffer the abuse? If the answer is yes you would be different then you have answered your own question. Mental illness is totally different to psychiatric illnesses. The only way you will be tarnished is if you tarnish yourself. If you think of yourself as crazy then you will be tarnished. You are not crazy, far from it. Everything you have said in your question is very intelligent and certainly doesnt resemble words of a crazy man. If you want a girlfriend and if you want to succeed then you will achieve all of that and more....but you cannot categorise yourself. You have to think of yourself in a different light. You have to accept that everything that happened to you was the direct result of why you are feeling this way now. Get crazy out of your volabulary. Start thinking positive stuff....start hanging around with positive people. Start saying positive things to yourself. Maybe look at what courses are running in your local college...do a self esteem course. Just get out there...be a part of life again....start believing that you were born my equal....everyone's equal and you do have the right to persue a good life. Yes, see the psychiatrist, he may be able to help you. See anyone you like if it is going to help....but the real answer lies within yourself....you have done a bloody great job so far coming to terms with your life....so it can only get better.
Stay safe, stay positive, seek out all the help you need, but know this...everything you are hoping for will come to pass, but you have to believe it first. You have all the answers, you just have to believe in yourself. Psychiatrist, psychologists, counsellors are all there for support only, it is you who is the expert, it is you who knows exactly how you are feeling, and I really think you do know what to do to achieve all that you want. Its all about thinking good and positive things. Its about imagining a situation and it will happen. You have to get out there and do. Once you confront your fears and start being a part of life again then things will change dramatically. You can no longer think of yourself as having a mental health problem, you have to start thinking of yourself as just a regular person who has had problems and are dealing with them. Dont put a label on yourself, its the worst possible thing a person can do.
I wish you all the success in the world. You have personal power, you are the master of your own destiny, so start believing it and good things will start happening. Get out of your comfort zone, start going out, start socializing....start small and the rest will eventually come, but you are the only one who can do it. Be a doer, confront your fears head on. Dont let the people who abused you win and show the bastards you are a better man than they will ever be because you are going to succeed and you are going to have everything they thought they took away from you. They are the sick ones, you are wanting to do something about your situation....so you are more healthy than they ever will be. You will get there because you want it.
2006-10-29 09:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ofcourse you can find your way back. And about labelling, no you are not labelled. We are living in a mad world and people here are mad not those living in mental hospitals. Just because they got some extra brain. Or maybe they used their 15% of brain while others never exceed 10. There are people who can Remote View. And maybe those who encountered ghosts or demons.So chill!
Look to get a girlfriend you need to first achieve some goal. Getting education is the first step. Learn in whatever field you like. Easiest may do. Hardest is your choice. All you need to do is reach above Bachelors Degree. If you have done Bachelors of any kind, you are almost there. Now after this you can do some job and continue higher education with it. Earn and meet your expenses. Watch movies. Entertain yourself but keep your goal in mind. And you will meet people out there. People at the job. Soon you'll find someone to start with. Its just a matter of time. So relax.
And Meds do help. We all use them.
2014-09-25 11:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it isn't all over. every day is another day to make an effort to live the life that you want. that's what's so great about free will. you wake up every morning and make a conscious decison. don't worry that it's too late. you are very young. most people don't even really begin their lives as adults until they are your age or older. I don't know how you got started on this path of low self esteem and loneliness and anger, but if you want to , you can work to live with all that stuff under control. if you can afford it, a therapist might help since you can just talk and get honest feedback. if not, a friend online can do almost the same thing. you want to live a better life, and that is the most important step in the right direction. don't worry about how things will work out or if you will fail or not....just find something that makes you happy that generates enough of a paycheck to pay your expenses, do your best at it, and that is really all anyone can do. try your best and hope for good things. it is what everyone does. we all take the chance of failing, but we do it because hey-we might succeed and suprise ourselves! once you can find someone to talk to, and find a job that you can commit to trying to excel in, friends and a girlfriend and a great social life will almost surely follow. so what if you were in a mental hospital. don't tell anyone. no one needs to know. it's your business. no one elses. has nothing to do with your ability to get and keep a job, so keep it to yourself. if someone finds out, be cavalier: "oh, that was in my past and I prefer not to talk about it. it's over and I've put it behind me and I hope you will too" is all you have to say. you are not labelled or tarnished. you are hopeful and young and you can have the life you want. you can do it. just don't be afraid to try!
2006-10-29 09:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is quite possible to fully recover. Your life is in no way ruined it's just a work in progress so try to enjoy it. As for the system (I suppose you mean phyciatric hospital) that's not even part of the equation no one cares that you've been helped somewhere. Hey, do what I did, cheer up, get out, and quit worrying about it. This is one crazy f#@ked up world and I fit right in. You will too!
2006-10-29 09:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by diablo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as simplistic as it sounds, one thing that can help alot is letting go of the past... my first 45 years were horrible - physical/mental/verbal abuse, neglect, rage, rape... I was too chicken to kill myself, the meds made me nuttsier, the docs had no clue how to help... I raged constantly at the injustice of life... I found the recovery movement and took my reigns into my own hands... I challenged myself to make tomorrow right instead of lamenting that yesterday was wrong... I tackled my dysfunctions one at a time... baby steps... raising the bar every day... celebrating each success.. I made myself my own project... I kept logs of my progress... I journaled... I listened to music... I sang... I blew bubbles... I talked to my Higher Power... I grew and as I grew, I made new friends who were attracted to the new and improved me... I knew I'd gotten to a good place when someone asked me how I could smile all the time... I answered that I'd used up all my tears... life is still rough at times... I still have some issues but I came through on the other side by the sweat of my brow... I am not religious particularly but these words from the Old Testament kept my hope up... "he who sows with tears reaps with joy"... check out www.mentalhealthrecovery.com, www.patdeegan.com, www.power2u.org... I now have a job that suits my needs and I am good at... I am a psychiatric rehabilitation practitioner... I use what I learned to help people like you find their track...
you might also consider recovery, inc... a mutual support group where you can learn how to deal with your rage and anger
I hope you find relief from your life pain... you deserve peace and happiness
2006-10-29 13:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by dornalune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. Go to therapy with an open mind. Ask the therapist to give you ideas on how you can overcome some of your stronger issues. also, dont allow him or her to convince you that medication is the only way to overcome. Pills never cured anything. Its all choices you have made about yourself, and now you absolutly believe your doubts. Stop worrying, worrying NEVER settles anything, just makes you feel worse. Pick things that you enjoy doing, and continue doing them. Dont isolate, get out and have fun by yourself if thats what it takes. Belive me when I say that depression is a choice, just make a real decission to not allow yourself to feel like crap all the time. Sure it takes time, but things do get better. I used to belive that I was always going to be an alcoholic, that belife and that lable kept me drunk and depressed for twenty years. I got sick of feeling rotten all the time, sick of screwing my life up.. I chose not to drink, chose not to feel depressed, chose to feel better about myself. End result, not an alcohlic, life is much better, not screwing things up anymore. I did it by moving on with a better attitude.
2006-10-29 09:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by john c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Recovery is not the right word. Once you have a mental health problem, you have it, it doesn't just go away. You may need meds, or just therapy. You get through it. You learn to live with your condition, and to control it. See your doc, listen to him, ask questions, find out what your options are. There are meds out there that do wonders for people. Your life isn't ruined. Believe in yourself first, then others will believe in you too
2006-10-29 09:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Absolutely. You have taken a very important step in seeing a psychiatrist. Philosophy and Religion (or both) can do wonders as well.
2006-10-29 09:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by valium_summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes there is hope for you. You can recover, but it will take dedication and hard work on your part.
2006-10-29 09:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you can recover but you have to want it more than anything. good luck , it seems you have a battle ahead.
2006-10-29 09:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by robert w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋