My girlfriend and I have been together for three years now. I was her first. When we first got together, we had sex all of the time and after a year and a half it just stopped. One day, it's like it wa sjust gone. All her life she's had endometriosis and problem's with cysts on her ovaries. I'm sympathetic but as a man, I feel sex is important to our relatinship and I still have a healthy sex drive. I'm worried that the problem isn't only physical but mental as well. I feel as though she's not attracted to me anymore. When I bring any of this up, she becomes angry and says that I only want her for sex. So I give up and fall off to sleep usually. I love her so much, but I'm afraid that this is damaging our relationship beyond repair. She talks about marriage sometimes but I can't see being married to someone that I can't make love with, or at least have a quickie before work or something, for the rest of my life. I'm genuinely worried. What can I do?
2006-10-29 09:09:51 · 12 answers · asked by ben j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lets think positive here......I wouldn't make my first conclusion that she is cheating. But she does have some issues here. Maybe her illness has an affect on her hormones and sex drive. Ask her about how that affects her hormones. If that fails, you need to tell her what's on your mind, even if she gets mad. I am pretty sure it will be better for her to get mad now than to get cheated on later. So let her know the deal and that it is pushing you away. Remember, you are her first and she is not too experienced with men. So she may not understand the importance of the physical connection to men.
2006-10-29 09:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello ben j,
I'm sorry to read about this problem with that girlfriend of yours. It sounds like you have always been a great boyfriend to her. You've truly been with her through some tough times, but sex is an important part of your life.
You have gone a year and a half without sex. I think that you've proven that you don't just want her for sex. I'm surprised that you've gone as long as you have.
My suggestion to you is that you need to dump her @ss. I would not put up with what she has been putting you through. You need to get out from under this relationship and move onto one where you are getting more what you need. Also, please don't let her manipulate you with guilt anymore.
Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get more women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:
http://www.blowmeuptom.com
I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.
--Rick
2006-10-29 09:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would say kiss her a lot.
Treat her wonderfully and do thoughtful things for her, get her flowers, compliment her, help her out with things she is struggling with be even more supportive than you have been. shave extra close, work out, put time into what you wear. this will all make her more physically and emotionally in touch with you, she will want you and she will remember those sparks from the beginning of the relationship...
2006-10-29 10:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling for both of you will help alot. Its not your fault, she probably has insecurity and it seems like her medical condition is not helping, you need to support her through this and tell her how you feel about your sexual needs and how she felt about it. Be openminded to her feelings as well. But i would suggest you both get counseling, it will definitely save your marriage. good luck.
2006-10-29 09:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by nonsteroidalantianalgesic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and encourage her to go visit her dr. I would think that her health issues are causing the problem.
2006-10-29 09:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion--confer together with her. talk the subject. Do you tell her which you adore her?? Do you adore her?? perhaps she is needing dedication. Ask her is she needs to cut up up. perhaps she feels used?? you do no longer point out love on your question??? stable success
2016-10-03 02:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a girl who told me the same thing, turs out she was with some one else.
2006-10-29 10:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by The long Road Home 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a dude on the side.
2006-10-29 09:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u were bad. or maybe she got bord. or she could be cheating on u!
2006-10-29 09:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Emy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and her can have couples therapy.
2006-10-29 09:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋