I"m getting married in a month!!! Any tips??? We are having a child in 7 months???

Question

My boyfriend and I are getting married here in the next month! We are so excited and expecting our first baby. What is it like being married and living without parents?? Do you like living on your own? Do you have any marriage tips??? Do you think we'll do okay??? Will it make that much of a difference when my child comes?? I'm only 11 weeks now. Thank you for all the help!! I'm super excited!!!

Answer 1

CONGRATS!!!!
Enjoy the coming months...it may be awhile until it is just the two of you again. Not that the future won' t be great. Also, take the time to plan your lives together. It is not fun or romantic, but can make the future of your relationship so much easier. What are your financial goals? Do you want to save money, or own cool stuff. How do you want to parent? Does one of you believe tha tspanking is ok, while the other could never see that happen to their child? Where do you want to be in five years? Who takes off work when the baby is sick? All these little things should be discussed asap so that they do no tbecome fights in the future.

Just remember, it takes work to make any relationship work, and now that there is a child relying on you, you owe it to them to do the best you can. Oh yeah, never argue in front of the kid...it REALLY does affect thier health, and feeling of security, no mattter how young they are. Don' tbe afraid to ask family and friends for help, and dont forget to help each other too...it wont always be easy, but remember it should be fun...and that you are together for a reason.

Best Wishes and Good Luck on a HAPPY FUTURE!

Answer 2

To all the people who have told you that you should have "kept your legs closed until marriage"....forget all of them. What's done is done.My husband and I got married when I was 3 months pregnant, and we are very happy and doing great. Those people who said the age difference is too great, whatever...my husband and I are 13 years apart. I do agree with the point of finishing high school...if that's the case, then that is very important. As far as marriage advice, it's difficult the first year anyway, but add in a baby, and it's ten times as hard...I know. But stick it out...you love your bf, that's why you're getting married, right? So hang in there through everything...there will be fights and disagreements...talk to each other! Be honest about your feelings! Hold hands! Hug a lot! Share in the joy of your baby!

Answer 3

if you 2 haven't graduated from HS, do it. communication is very important, along with truthfulness. living without parents can be stressful if you are still teenagers. it is ok to hear what your parents have to say, but you and your spouse have to do what you feel is right for the 2 of you. just because you have money, don't feel you have to spend it. keep some back for a "rainy day".buy food, pay your bills and once in awhile eat out or go to the movies. marriage isn't cheap and neither are babies.on your wedding day, don't wear white. we all know you aren't a virgin, since you have already said you are pregnant. each child will change your lives. both you and your spouse will have to make changes. it depends on how mature 2 people are if things go good or bad. remember you married each other NOT your relatives. GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

You would only be able to get a no fault divorce in any event. Albeit he fathered a child (possibly) behind your back, but that was before your marriage, and so whilst being a cheating scumbag, has not actually broken his marriage vows. If you still have feelings for the man, then consider whether you are in a position to forgive him. If he had confessed to sleeping with this woman 3 years ago, and there was no child, how would you feel? If you would have ended the relationship then maybe that is what you need to do now.

Answer 5

You're obviously too young to have a child. You need to see a professional counselor for the sake of the child and your own.
You're 16 and having a baby with an irresponsible 22 year old, according to your other questions.... You need serious life-counseling.

Living without your parents- You're an adult if you're doing that. So no crying to your mother. No whining about life. No going out with friends--yeah youve got a kid remember. Forget clubbing and bars, traveling and trips. Forget water parks and amusement rides...ALL of your money will go to bills and paying for that kid.

Marriage tips- get a counselor. You're 16 and too young to understand how to make a relationship last longer than reality TV.

Think we'll do okay?- not a chance. but good luck... the age difference is too much. And you are WAY too young.

Will it make a difference?- Will WHAT make a difference when the child comes? Do you think that having a kid will influence your marriage? If you think that baby is an INSURANCE policy, you are sadly mistaken. Why do you think the government has so much of an issue with getting fathers to pay child support? Because lots of guys just get up and leave. How can you possibly think this guy is responsible enough to actually forge a life with you, make a marriage work and last, and raise a child with you, when he was having SEX WITH A 15 YEAR OLD. HOW on EARTH can you think this man will be responsible?

For your own sake, you need an attorney and a counselor... A counselor to help you sort through this event in your life. You need to be constructive, and Yahoo Answers isn't the place for that. And an Attorney to draw up a marriage contract that will enact swift and strict punishment if your husband leaves. You should be entitled to half of his assets if he fails out of the marriage, and a good attorney can help you get that. If he does in fact own 3 houses, plan on getting the 2 best ones and selling them to put your kid through college.

Answer 6

First i am so excited for you .!~!~And u should be ... you have so much going on. :) ~

well marriage and a baby is something to be very happy about and as uknow they are both alot of work...

My marrage tip to you is never got to bed mad at eachother b/c thing will just be even worse the next day..
Try not to flip out on eachother b/c life is hard sometime and u do sometimes take things out on the wrong peopl;e but if u do go back and say your sorry and hug..
Kiss ,a hug ,one a day and if not more ;)
Say I Love you everyday.!!
Love eachother and be there for eachother and have fun!~!~!

I think you will be better then ok ;)!!
well i do not have kids but i belive it will make a big difference b/c there will be different things u both will have to get use to .. but will be a good things b/c u will see what u have made together<3And i think it will be u 2 even closer :)


Good luck with everything <3 ~

Answer 7

First of all congratulations!! The first tip is remember it's forever, don't give up on your marriage the first time things don't go your way, cause believe me it will happen a lot!! LOL!! And the second is without a strong marriage you can not be strong parents. Love each other with everything you have and everything will fall into place. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

Good luck. It's much harder w'out your parents. I do like being the Queen in my own castle though. I've been married 4 years and i still don't get it. I hope you'll be ok. Your relationship will change drastically when you have your baby, could be for the better or the worse. If you guys really love each other, you can work it out.

Answer 9

congrats. It is a completley different life without parents- in a good way. There is so much freedom but on the other hand you have to think about bills, and grocerys.
It will be tough on both of you when the baby comes but be strong and patient. I married my husband when we were only 18 - we had our sonsix months later- it would have been nice to be married a while longer without the baby-

Answer 10

From one who has been there and knows, it will take a lot of work and energy to even raise one child in these crazy times.

At times, I had to work three jobs to feed three kids and a stay-at-home wife.

Wasn't easy, and then she wanted a divorce on top of it.

Over a twenty to thirty year period, it cost a lot.

But, they turned out okay and it was all worth it.

Takes a lot of compromising and understanding.

I wish you all the best, but remember, it takes two devoted parents to make for a successful marriage and children.

God Bless!