i come from this kinda strict indian family..my dad is the kind who doesn't like his daughters getting calls from guys and stuffs like that..now i have found this really great guy and its gone to the extent that we wana get married to eachother...his parents know about us & i'm pratically @ his place most of the time during the day playing "daughter-in-law"..his parents are ok with us but his dad has asked me to tell my dad as soon as possible...i want to tell my dad but i just don't know how to tell him..pliz help!!!
2006-10-29 08:58:15 · 12 answers · asked by pappin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just to let u guys all know i'm 21yrs
2006-10-29 09:12:04 · update #1
oh and what i mean by playing daughter-in-law is i go there and do all the housework plus the shopping and all..and nothing else!!
2006-10-29 09:14:00 · update #2
tell him
offer to have him meet this guy and his family in stead of sneaking around behind your father's back
if you let him know he can trust you you might be better off and he might give you a little more slack
by the way about playing daughter- in -law
sounds like they got free maid service
his parents-- if they truly want you to be together would not want you to go against your families wishes it is disrespectful
they would try to help you find a way to honestly resolve the problem
remember you have to be happy but you can always get another guy you only have 1 real father
2006-10-29 09:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing "daughter-in-law", thus your dad will be furious that you did not tell him. Stop playing around!
1. If you are an adult (18 or older), sit your parents down, introduce your boyfriend to them. Or better yet, invite your boyfriends family over for a get together.
2. If you are under 18, stop "playing around" as though you were already married, you are NOT. You can go on dates, but stay at your home and with your family until the time comes to be on your own.
3. Be polite and respectfull to your parents and your future in-laws by TELLING about your relationship. Even if they get mad, and yell, at least they will know the truth. Stop hiding and pretending!
2006-10-29 17:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you still live at home. That means that likely you really aren't old enough to be making this kind of decision. You should be really grateful that you have a father who's concerned about your welfare.
Are you truly ready to get married? Is your boyfriend ready to financially support you (and likely a baby in the near future)? Are you ready to do without when there's no money, to not go out or party because you have to stay home with children, to spend your life working more than having fun?
This is the time in your life for you to have fun. Enjoy that time. Don't jump too quickly from being single into being tied down with the family. There are plenty of years left for you to do that.
2006-10-29 17:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by servinggodalone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that you mean Indian, as in from the country of India.
I am not educated in the customs of the Indian culture but I recall someone telling me they have arranged marriages not love marriages. Is your bf and his family Indian also?
If so, then they are aware of the cultural customs of your heritage. If you feel close to his mom and comfortable talking to her about this she may be better able to advise you in how to approach your father.
Nonetheless... you are an adult. You should go to your father and tell him you respect him (which you do or you are afraid of him) and that you would like to speak to him as an adult about something that is very important to you.
I don't know any parent who is approached in this manner that would not give their child the freedom to speak their mind. You should tell him you care deeply for your bf and he for you and that you seek his approval because he taught you strong morals and good judgment.
2006-10-29 17:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot tell you dad that you found the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married. If you love this guy, is it going to matter what your dad says. Seriously...
2006-10-29 17:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible your father would sit down with you, if you told him that you both had to talk?
IF he is willing to listen to you, be kind and serious when telling him how you feel for this guy. Keep on the subject of all the good things this guy has to offer your heart.
Good luck sweety!!
2006-10-29 17:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF should be man enough to go and introduce himself to your dad. Being a dad, I distrust any guy that goes behind my back to see my daughter. Start there, your dad just might surprise you.
2006-10-29 17:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your father that you love the guy and there's not a thing that's gonna stop you from seeing him. If your dad knows you're seeing him, then he'll understand.
2006-10-29 17:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not grown up enough to tell your daddy that you have a boyfriend, let alone one you are serious enough to considering marrying, then you need to dump this guy and quit leading him on.
You are obviously not old enough to have a serious relationship.
2006-10-29 17:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF YOU REALLY WANT YOUR LOVE AND HE WANTS YOU WELL YOU GUYS SHOULD SIT ALL TO GATHER AND TELL YOUR DAD. IF YOU HAVE THE AGE TO GET MARRIED AND YOU TWO GUYS ARE IN LOVE THEN MAKE THE SACRIFICE ON TELLING HIM, CAUSE YOU WOULDN'T LIKE TO BE MARRIED WITH A GUY YOUR DAD WANTS YOU TO MARRIED. SPEAK YOUR HEART OUT FIGHT FOR YOUR LOVE .
2006-10-29 17:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by ANGEL C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋