My boyfriend and I have finally called it quits after trying for 6 years. We don't live together, however, it was his idea to get a German Shepherd dog about 2 months ago. He is a 4 month puppy now and we decided that it was both of ours when we got him. The dog favors me and I love it more than any other pet I have ever had...I love it like a child. However, I feel like I can't take this dog away from my ex because the dog has another dog to play with there and my ex's family is really in love with the dog too. We were transported the dog back in forth between us, but I don't know if that would work now...I miss him terribly and have been crying for 2 days and I don't want him to think that I abondoned him because the last time I saw him to say goodbye, he looked at me so sad and knew that I was leaving? Is there a way of staying separated from my ex but still having the dog in both of our lives????
2006-10-29 08:38:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
As dogs don't understand separation, even as well as children, I would recommend considering the puppy's feelings, more than your own.. If he is happy and cared for, in your ex's home, I believe it would be better for him than going back and forth..
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2006-10-29 09:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not an ideal situation and leaving a dog outside all day and night mainly unattended is taking a big risk with their safety. Also they may start barking to be let inside the house if that is what they are used to. Do not leave food out as they will just eat the lot at once and this could cause them upset stomachs. Someone needs to come and check on the dogs at least 3-4 times a day and to feed them properly and make sure everything is ok. (Also to clean up their poop droppings). They could also be stolen if word gets about that you have left them without proper supervision. Surely the best thing to do is put your dogs in boarding kennels for a couple of days and go away knowing they are in safe hands? Jmo. Obviously leaving them alone at home is worrying you a bit or you would not be asking strangers on the internet for their opinions on this issue!!!
2016-05-22 05:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work at a rescue and we see this situation all the time. I have just had to watch a family give up their chocolate lab, as she howls when they go out, and environmental health said they had to get rid of it. The little boy was devasted and was nearly sick, from crying so hard.
Unfortuantely, from a 100% professional point of view, you have to do right by the dog. Although you still want to see him, he is going to get very confused and upset being moved around all over the place. Also, if he sees you, and then doesn't for a few weeks and then does, and then doesn't etc, he will miss you more as he will be wondering where you are and when you are coming back.
When you are both out at work, the dog will be lonely on its own, so being with another dog will keep it company. At the end of the day, you have to respect that they are not children that parents are fighting over custody for, they do no understand what is going on around them.
I appreciate that you love this dog, but unless the dog can just stay with one of you, it is not fair by the dog. Whose name is the dog in? If it is your ex's, then the dog is legally his, and if at any point he wanted the dog back from you, he can take it straight back.
I know its frustrating, it is for us involved in animal welfare too.
Good Luck.
2006-10-29 08:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Little Red Riding Hood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can both share him. My ex and I broke up then after awhile I moved 2hrs away and got married and we share our 9yr old German Shepherd. He lives with my ex I figured that he needed the dog with him more since I was getting married. My husband would get him once a month and keep him for a couple of weeks at a time. We don't get him anymore he is getting old and his hips are bad and its hard on him to make the 2hr ride but I still see him when I go home to visit family. We never had problems sharing him and he was happy and well adjusted at both of our homes. Good luck
2006-10-29 09:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by wolfds650 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what would be best for you now is to get a dog of your own...as sad as it is if you are leaving the puppy with your ex then he needs to stay there. You however need to move on in more ways than one and a new pet would be just the thing to start out your new life right! Good luck
2006-10-29 08:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should think about getting a puppy of your own. I realize how hard it must be for you to leave behind your german shepard but at least you know he is happy, safe and loved. If you could work out something with your ex that would be great but I just don't see how that could work.
2006-10-29 08:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by mum2be 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOT REALLY. AND YOUR EX MAY USE THE DOG FOR LEVERAGE TO KEEP YOU AROUND. LIKE A CHILD. IF HE TREATS THE DOG RIGHT AND THE DOG HAS MORE BEING OFFERED TO HIM, JUST LET HIM BE. HE'S ONLY 4 MONTHS SO HE WON'T BE PERMANENTLY SCARRED. AND DOGS LIVE IN THE MOMENT. BE GLAD YOU DIDN'T HAVE CHILDREN TO DRAG THROUGH THE COURTS. EVERY COUPLE SHOULD GET A PET BEFORE THEY HAVE KIDS.
2006-10-29 08:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Isis Is: HOPEFULL HOUNDS RESCUE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello Confused, Go and get your dog.It sounds to me the dog wants to be with you.You love him and have been crying for him. I would go right now and get your dog and bring him home where he belongs. He will be a great companion for you. What are you waiting for!! A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-10-29 08:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple but sad answer, no! you want the best for him/her, the last thing you want to do is confuse him/her. let the dog settle for a while where it is, maybe in a few weeks you could see if maybe they would let you walk it now an again. trust me, it wont forget you an will be all over you when it sees you.
2006-10-29 09:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by spike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your ex' boyfriend and his family visit your house so they can see the dog and that way you can have the dog.
2006-10-29 08:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋