Baby and me.?

Question

Okay, this is...weird. Stupid and im pretty sure selfish. Lol. *And not to mention against what everyone wants* Okay--- so... im in my teens and i want a baby so sooo bad.Im in skool-loveit-and get decent grades. I dont care if i get a baby thats mine, a friends, or a strangers. I juss want one. I keep having dreams about how i somehow end up with someones baby like--- ive had a TON of these dreams. Prolly a different one every night. Its not that i want sex. I want to stay pure untill i marry--- which i hope is no time in the near future, lol--- But maybe its too wrong to raise a child like this. What are your inputs??? PLEASE tell me what you think... im really struggling here with this. BTW- I am a christian and am wondering if God really wants this for me or... if...yeah.... Juss plz plz help me!!!

Im not stealing one dude! And i would be able to support it financially.

---parenthood IS best with marriage. BUT in some cases a single parent home is MUCH MUCH MUUUCH better than a married couples home.

Answer 1

I feel the exact same way!! and sadly dont have an answer...I really know how you feel though! I am also a christian and I know if God thinks you should have a baby he will find a way to give you one....I wish you the best of luck, God Bless

Answer 2

I have a lot of trouble conceding that God is sending you these dreams because He wants you to have a baby.

As a someone raised Catholic (i.e. Catholic School, active in Youth Ministry programs through high school and beyond), and also someone who is studying to be a psychologist, I encourage you to examine what's going on in your life beyond the possibility of mothering a child.

From the psychology background, have you thought of referring to dream dictionaries? It's widely thought that babies in dreams are metaphors for innonence, purity, new beginnings, or vulnerability.

You say that you've had several dreams about ending up with someone else's baby. Is it the same dream each time (a recurring dream)? Or is the baby the only symbol that carries over (as in, there's always someone else's baby but you're not always doing the same thing or in the same place each time)?

If you think about this, is there anything happening in your life right now that some less superficial interpretation of your dreams could make any sense? Is there anything happening which would make sense for you to assume you're struggling with a big change in your life or have recently been confronted with some other issue or situation that's been hard for you to cope with?

Parenting is a HUGE responsibility and, while I do believe that God doesn't give us more than we can handle, I think you should consider other interpretations of these dreams long and hard before you start to assume He wants you to have a baby or someone else's baby. Perhaps the baby in your dream is a symbol of you taking on a more maternal role in your friendships or otherwise.

Hope this helped.

Answer 3

You are not in a position yet to assume the responsibility of motherhood. There will be plenty of time for that later. You sound like you have developed an unhealthy obsession with having a child-- and I don't understand how you could want a child but also want to stay pure until you're married. If you recognize that parenthood is best within marriage, why can't you wait until then?

You do not need the responsibility of a child yet. You need to focus on getting good grades and creating a solid future for the children you will one day have.

Babies sound like lots of fun until you actually have one. Trust me, you are not ready for the exhaustion, deprivation, loneliness and constant work that comes with single teen motherhood. I also have difficulty believing that you are financially stable enough to support a little one (unless you're counting on your parents to support him/her, or unless you're incredibly wealthy)

Don't kid yourself. Go to school, finish school, find a good man, marry him, and THEN think about having kids.

Single parenthood is rarely preferable to married parenthood. I am a single parent. So you can believe me or not believe me, your choice. But if you decide to have a kid you'll find out on your own-- the hard way.

Answer 4

Take it from me stay in school get your education, raising a baby is hard work no matter how bad you want it. I went through a phase like your going through, you will have your baby at the right time in your life when you are ready. First you just need to finish school and get an education a good job, build yourself a strong foundation before you have a baby. Do you really want a baby to come in your life when you cannot support it.

Answer 5

i don't think wanting a baby is wrong, i just think you are still too young. you need to think about how you would provide for the child, and what kind of life both you and the child would have. it would be much better for all involved if you wait until you are able to deal with being a parent, psychilogically and finacially.
if you are an active christian, you have lots of volunteer opportunities. you could work in the nursery at your church, volunteer at a battered womens and childrens shelter, a pre-school, or any number of places that deal with helping small children and their families.
God probably does have a plan for you, but i don't think now is the time. good luck.

Answer 6

I think that's the female version of the curse. The male version is the constant lust and drive for intercourse. Fight it with all your might. You decide when you want to reproduce. Not your body. You make the decisions. We're not animals. Males can't just go out and rape people, and you just can't go out and get a random child. We have to fight our drives with self discipline. the ability to choose our own actions is what makes us human. If we ran off of instincts like animals, we'd be exactly that.

Answer 7

Hey Its nice to know that there is someone like me out there. No matter anyones input you will still have those dreams and you will always have those thoughts of wanting a baby really badly and there is nothng a matter with that. My advice is since you said you don't care whether it was yours or someone elses I say stick with babysitting until you can get one of your own and hey you will make some money on the side on top of it.

Answer 8

I THINK YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE A BABY NOW. I AM 19 I HAD MY DAUGHTER WHEN I WAS 18. I DON'T REGRET HER. BUT I DO REGRET THE FACT THAT I HAD HER TOO EARLY. I WAS LIKE YOU I WAS DYING FOR BABY. I AM STILL WITH THE BABY'S FATHER BUT IS STILL HARD NOT MONEY WISED BUT TO TAKE CARE OF HER. I HAVE TO BE CHASING HER ALL AROUND. IF I COULD GO BACK I WOULD OF HAD MY DAUGHTER WHEN I WAS 29 OR 30.

Answer 9

maybe go talk to a priest or someone that could answer these questions for you cause no one on here knows who you are or about you and it is a question that no one can really answer for you so if it was me i would go and speak to someone that knows what they are talking about and has a degree in this kind of thing.Good Luck

Answer 10

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