My bf and his ex dated for about 2 years, but he said feelings for her were not strong, like how they are for me. but she won't let him go! she texts and calls him, askin him to go visit her (she is like 2 1/2 hours away) and she tries to get him to feel bad 4 her. He is a really nice guy and he still cares about her, so i'm not sure if i can truly trust him when it comes to her. He said that he wouldn't disrespect me, but we have totally different opinions of ex's. I say: ex's are in the past, and that's where they should stay. He says: i'm on good terms w/my ex's and we are jus friends...true?????
2006-10-29 08:05:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said he won't go visit her, but i still feel kinda weird about her callin him...
2006-10-29 09:04:30 · update #1
If it is really bothering you he should not be allowing her to continue, especially if he feels much more strongly for you. What I would say is ..."maybe you need time to figure out your feelings.. you have 3 days... if you want her, go visit her, if you want me then she cannot be brought up again. as well, I will not talk to my ex's anymore out of respect for you."
Hope this helps.
2006-10-29 08:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bull crap. He still wants to bang her. Run, and dont turn back. If you are feeling threatened, you have a reason to be. Of course, men like to make you think it is all in your head.
You cannot be friends with an ex until years have passed by and you get over the anger and the hurt from a relationship and have moved on. Anyone who tells you anything else is a liar.
2006-10-29 08:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend, we have heard that before, about their ex, being just good friends. You tell him if he must visit her, then he just may as well stay, tell him you are not going to be second best for no one. Tell him that you have respect for him, and that you would not do this to him, so why is he doing this to you. Tell him he and his ex should not be communicating so much, it upsets you, and that he does not seem to care about your feelings. Tell him to choose between you and his ex?
2006-10-29 08:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to visit her then that relationship continues. Good terms means casual conversation and if he visits her maybe it is just for sexual reasons.
2006-10-29 08:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and he don't sound compatible on this issue. She's not your problem- he's the one answering her calls and saying he cares. Isnt' that disrespectful to your relationship? If you can't trust him, or disagree on this issue, you might want to move on.
2006-10-29 08:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully that is the truth. It would suck if they were more than friends. I wouldn't worry though. Has he tried not answering her texts, calls, etc.?
2006-10-29 08:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by luv_dec21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what i would do,Ask him to change his phone number so she can no longer bother either one of you,if he refuses he's still seeing her and this is your chance to break it off and move on.
2006-10-29 08:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her theyre havin a semen-eatin contest! she'll run off at top speed
2006-10-29 08:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋