how to get female friend to stop treating me like a boyfriend?

Question

I told her from the beginning that I am gay, and a couple times I had to remind her. I enjoy her company, but I sense some clingy, wifey attitude under the surface, and sometimes it really seems like she's just hanging in there with the hope that I'll eventually realize that we're made for each other. There is no physical attraction there for me. In fact, the idea of even kissing her rather disgusts me. Do I have to be "cruel to be kind" and rub it in her face that I like guys, find her physically unattractive, etc? Today she met my mom, and she acted like such a girlfriend, it really bugged me. I almost want to tell her I don't want to see her again, but I don't have many other friends, and I get bored and depressed when I'm alone a lot.

Answer 1

Just tell her straight up that you will always be friends...but that is it. and tell her that you like hanging out with her but that you feel that she might think it is something more. if she says she doesnt feel that way toward you just tell hher that sometimes she acts as though she does and sh will be more concious of the way she acts around you. also you can point out the things she does when she does them and say something like "that is exactly what im talking about when i say you act like you want to be more than friends."

Answer 2

1. This "clingy, wifey attitude under the surface" to which you refer? What specifically does she DO to give you that impression? If you can't articulate it and can't put a label on it, but are left with only the description of some attitude that you're "sensing," then you're really just assuming that she's attracted to you. She could be one of those affectionate types; you might just be uncomfortable with her because you don't like women, etc. So first, try to make sure she likes you "that way" before you risk embarassing yourself with presumption.

2. Your last sentence suggests to me that you're only keeping her around because you don't have any other friends and you don't want to be alone. That's called using someone, and that's not right. Switch places. Can you imagine discovering that someone you thought highly of secretly despised you, and was only "putting up" with you because they couldn't do any "better"? Inaccurate and unfair maybe, but that's how it looks.

3. You should tell her the truth, but don't be an asshole about it. Just let her know that you're getting the impression that she wants to be more than a friend, and that as you explained before, that's not a possibility. If she denies such interest, give her those specific things that made you think so.

4. Get some friends who you actually want to be around.

Answer 3

Just remind her or tell her to back off! Not in a mean way. Find a bf if ur gay, she'll get the picture!

Answer 4

Tell her that you are just her friend and not attracted to her. I know people like that who cling over their friends and I know how annoying it is. Tell her straight up it makes you uncomfortable and you are not attracted to her other then in a friend way.

Answer 5

That's easy. Stop hanging out with her so much. And you definitely shouldn't be introducing her to your family if you know she has these "feelings" for you.

Sounds like you might be enjoying this a little too much.

Answer 6

introduce her to your boyfriend and be like lets go shopping and have drink .....like alcohol.....be as gay as possible and she will realize it he is not the guy for me

Answer 7

TELL HER YOU REALLY LIKE HER AS A FRIEND BUT NOT THE GIRLFRIEND TYPE. REMIND HER OF YOUR FEELING FOR GUYS AND NOT GIRLS. THAT SHE'D LOOK GOOD TO OTHER GUYS BUT NOT YOU.

Answer 8

if you have a boyfriend, introduce this girl to him. this will probably make her realize you do mean what you're saying. good luck.

Answer 9

stop being gay or say i only want to be friends

Answer 10

send her my way :)