I've been going out with this guy for over a year. However, I don't know if I can get over things he did in the beginning of the relationship. Well here's some example...during the first week of dating I saw him putting his phone number into another girl's phone while she was sitting on his lap. He stood me up on our second date (it was a group date, but instead went to San Diego with a friend (who is a girl) to see UCSD) he called and said he was going to be late, but he ended taking way longer and was never able to make it. After making a promise to me to never watch porn, he watched a movie as a joke with five of his guy friends and one of his girl friends. Do I have a right to still be upset or should I get over it?
2006-10-29 07:41:25 · 23 answers · asked by trojansgirlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like the early stages were rough for you, but what have things been like since then? Has he put this behaviour behind him, and (just as important) has he made it up to you?
If he has done his best to make it up to you, and proven that he is a trustworthy and devoted boyfriend ever since, then yes, you should do your best to let go of the past.
But if you're asking this question because you haven't talked about these issues, then I think you need to talk to him. If you are suffering in silence, that isn't good for you or the relationship. You need to know how he feels - is he sorry? Why did he do it?
You can't get over this without help from him - he needs to say sorry, explain his actions and make things right.
2006-10-29 07:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, leopards do not change their spots. Look, if you have been going out with him for a year, you have GOT to have some kind of ambitions about a longtime future with this guy. This particular leopard has clearly displayed the kind of coat HE is wearing, and do you think for a moment that he is going to change it? Especially when he sees that he has a "meek accepting little woman" who is prepared to suck up his jerkish behaviours
Seriously, the fact that you even had to ask this question, is a very clear indication that you are not mature enough yet to be in a serious relationship with anybody. To any mature woman, what you posted about this guy was enough to get the lights flashing and the horns blaring and a sign dancing in the air in front of their eyes 'WARNING, WARNING, JERK ALERT DANGER UP AHEAD' Drop this one like a hot potato and go find yourself a real man. They ARE out there.
2006-10-29 15:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still flirting like that I would have and issue with it and you CANNOT make a man stop wathing porn but if he is treating you right and you feel secure in the relatinship you cant stay mad at something he did when you first got together how was he to know it would turn into a serious relatinship
2006-10-29 15:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by odoyal4912 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You have the right to be upset and you should also get over it and move on. He is not worth your time or the energy spent trying to love him.
You deserve better.
Your first sign was on your first date. The first date is meant to impress to make the other party want to come back for another date; here he is getting play with another while on your date. DONT PLAY YOURSELF short.
Best regards!
2006-10-29 15:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still acting like he did in the beginning of the relationship, then I'd have to say that you would be stupid to stay because what he did showed no respect for you. But, if he hasn't done anything like that since then, you should get over it.
2006-10-29 15:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by D.Sophia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has shown you more than once that you are not the number one priority. I would have moved on long ago.Is he still exhibiting this kind of behavior? If so I would get out while the getting out is good. If not I would leave the past in the past and concentrate on the future.
2006-10-29 15:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to make a decision is it water under the bridge or fuel to the fire if you say you forgive him then let it go and if you can't forgive him and get past it then let him go. Life is too short to be mad about yesterday screw it if he's not treating you right then move on so someone else can.
2006-10-29 15:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I messed up a little in the beginning of a relationaship with my b/f.
But we both forgave and forgot. As long as he isnt being like that anymore, give him another chance. But if this immiture behavor continues... move on. He isnt worth your time
2006-10-29 15:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tay ;) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to have a serious talk with him. These seem like serious issues that could make or break a relationship.
2006-10-29 15:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes u gotta admit that love isn't just enof in a relationship, and this is one of those times, u both have 2 b willing to work at it and clearly, he isn't. and d'u mind giving me d best answer, i want d points,lol. tanx dear.
2006-10-29 15:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by watever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋