I sound like an awful girlfriend for asking this, but i think my boyfriends too nice. Everything is always about me, He never does anything mean and when he does something i feel bad about he apologizes and corrects his behavior, He’s a gentleman, has a good job, a great family ect.
I'm not that nice. I mean I'm alright, but I want my way, and I'm stubborn and emotional and allot of the time I'm wrong, I know it. The thing is I always am worrying about how he feels, I constantly have to consider if I'm going to hurt his feelings. I know it sounds selfish, but is he to nice for me? I feel claustrophobic not being able to be myself, constantly asking if stuff is okay you know.
2006-10-29 07:41:21 · 9 answers · asked by jinxintheworld 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know where you're coming from.
"Niceness" can be a form of control. Being around such "nice" people is insufferable because they creat an atmosphere in which normal emotions are taboo.
It's normal to have feelings of rage, boredom, envy etc. So "niceness" is really quite unnatural, and it unsatisfying because the mood it creates is so bland, so...suburban, so "Stepford Wives".
It's all about Ego-denial. But, who wants to spend time with somene who hasn't an ego? It's like a meal without flavour.
So, ditch the bore and go get yourself some Bauhaus records and a fast car girl and take some risks.
2006-10-29 07:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you have to be the way you are? "I want my way" is selfishness. "I'm stubborn" is refusal to accept other peoples' points of views. "emotional" isn't always a good thing; it shows a lack of tact, among other things. "A lot of the time I'm wrong, I know it". This is also a refusal to accept other peoples' points of views.
The thing about how you worry about how he feels does show that you think his feelings are important, but not nearly as important as yours. You don't need a boyfriend. You need a shrink.
2006-10-29 15:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by supensa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to realize what you have,how he treats you,how you treat him,and what you stand to lose if your behavior continues.A lot of women out here would love to be in your shoes right now and a lot of them also say were are all the good men.You have one and your coming close to messing it up playing games(see why they don't work?)Your problem sounds easy to fix,first be honest with yourself,next be honest with him.If you give nothing to the relationship,soon you'll get nothing,so do your part to keep him happy and show him some respect,he will always treat you like his queen and you'll be happy forever.
2006-10-29 15:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Belive ive been told im the same way. U have to sit down with and tell him that he is being to nice. I like to treat my women nice but every now and again i get told that im to nice.
2006-10-29 15:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Adam K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds wonderful. However, you are right there is a problem, if you can't be yourself then who is he in love with? If you stay together for the long term, you will either have to change who you are or you will resent him for being who he is. The choice is yours.
2006-10-29 15:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah guys can be too nice. my ex was. I know what you mean. i mean in the long run nice guys are better, but when theyre so nice to the point of stalking and obsessing, then theyre too nice. if you think that its what you should do, break up with him. thats what i did with my ex. I know that it sounds horrible, but its just how its is.
2006-10-29 15:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sk8chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say that this guy will not be able to defend you honor when it comes down to it. Too nice means he will try to talk himself out of a fight rather that throw some punches. Would you feel secure with this?
2006-10-29 15:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow your lucky. :)
i know someone like that and all you got to do is relax, enjoy life and enjoy him b/c he loves you. stop worrying, and start living
2006-10-29 15:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're lucky,!!! and you don't have to change your attitude, I mean, don't be mean to him...but just try to be yourslef and if he doesn't likes it than he wasn't worth you
2006-10-29 15:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by PaZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋