As we embarq on our 2nd year of dating he has asked me to marry him. I have turned him down before because he has to know I am NOT interested in having more kids and that I take marriage very seriously.
He claims that since he was raised in an orpahange and was lonely all growing up he never wants to take the chance to do that to any children to leave them alone.
We have alot in common and alot not in common but we spend hours justt walking and talking. I love him very much but am afradi of the risk any ideas?
2006-10-29 07:40:28 · 24 answers · asked by newtooocala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would go with your heart. The risks will work themselves out. I know a couple that the woman is 40 and the man is 60. They love each other and that is all that matters, really.
2006-10-29 07:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even in the best of circumstances, a long term relationship is a risk. I dated for 3 years, and married a girl who was 3 years younger than me, and we lasted 17 years. I recently remarried a girl I dated in High school and we are soul mates, and have been married for four years and are like newly weds.
The big issue you face is the age difference. 15 years is hard to overcome. I also detect a lot of doubt in your comments, where you doubt or worry that it is not gonna work out for you two.
If there is any hesitation on your part, then your subconscious is trying to tell you to stay away. You need to take some time off by yourself and evaluate where your are, and what you want in life.
Again, this is all about YOU. YOU are the only one who can answer this. for every success story someone will tell, I can tell one that was a train wreck. Its up to YOU to make that decision and go with what your instincts tell you.
Good Luck.
2006-10-29 07:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in an analogous boat. don't experience ashamed. i'm a 24 12 months previous female and am drawn to a 40 9 12 months previous guy. He use to offer up in my paintings particularly situations. i did not think of something of it, yet consistently theory he replace into good-looking. that is comparable to many babies looking George Clooney appealing for his age. in the commencing up, i replace into like what the heck am I doing, yet then I embraced it by way of fact we are human and all people has the terrific to be attracted or choose anybody of older or youthful consent. I had additionally only have been given out of a three.5 12 months courting. adulthood might desire to play a huge function and love might desire to under no circumstances have a cut back. that is well worth a shot, yet in case you do not experience delicate...only be pals to purpose out the exterior. we are only pals as i don't experience delicate along with his daughters on the brink of my age, plus i choose my own baby, and that i'm not waiting to circulate right into a sparkling courting on the 2nd. yet I say, there isn't something incorrect with experimenting--in any way ;) And that is not a cradle robber if the two consent! In all, its your determination, yet think of related to the specialists and cons.
2016-10-16 12:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by johannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no offense but this seems like a very risky problem. I suggest you two keep talking it over and list out all the pros and cons of getting married. I mean if you really love him, you wouldn't be pressured to have any more kids because then he would have to understand your situation. There's no harm really in trying when 2 people are in true love. Good luck to you both.
2006-10-29 07:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by basketball_gurl_3232 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, a cougar getting married to a 25 year old. It is between you two to decide not the public, and if he wants kids then I suggest you will have to be honest with him. Good luck.
2006-10-29 07:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, everything is a risk. If you both love each other, and have some of the same views, Why waste any more time. Life is too short. and tomorrow is not promised!
2006-10-29 07:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid! Just step out on faith. If u have found someone who wants to spend the rest of their lives w/u, go for it. Life is short. Love is not knocking on a lot of peoples door these days. He loves u too if he wants to marry u, he will wait until u are ready. I wish u the best!!!!!
2006-10-29 07:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by HIGHLY FAVORED 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me and my gal pal have been together 9 years.She is 69 and I am 56. Been mostly good so far for both of us.We were both married before so we just live together and don't need paper to love each other.
2006-10-29 07:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that is a 15 year difference. That is 15 more birthdays, 15 more Christmas' 15 more new year kisses, and a million more sexual encounters. Please. think about it. Besides, by the time you are about to pass away, he will still be ready for 5 hour sex. Is this a good thing? thats for you to answer.
2006-10-29 07:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your boyfriend, but if the issue of kids is going to come up, maybe couples therapy might be good before you get married. Its probably cheaper than divorce.
2006-10-29 07:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋