I don't want to call the police on my disabled neighbors, but I can't sleep. What do I do now?

Question

For the last few weeks, the neighbors on the other side of my bedroom wall have been very loud. The main tenant is Rosie. She is in a wheelchair. There used to be a nice woman who lived with her. She was her caretaker, but she moved away. Now there is this other lady who takes care of Rosie. Every Fri. & Sat night, she parks Rosie in front of the t.v. & puts it on very loud. She even leaves the door wide open. I have gone over there several times to ask the caretaker lady to turn down the t.v. She usually complies. However, it happens again the very next evening. Last night was the last straw. I saw the caretaker lady leave at 3am. She left the door open & the screen was unlocked. She never came back. The t.v was loud as usual. I just opened the screen & turned off the t.v.. Then I went to bed. My landlord has told me that in order for them to get involved, I have to call the police. The caretaker lady isn't a tenant. Maybe those rules don't apply to her. Please, help me. thanks

Answer 1

I think you should contact social services, because it sounds like the lady i nthe wheelchair isn't being very well looked after by the 'carer' - if you tackle that problem first, the chances are the noise problem will also be sorted out.

Answer 2

is this in the living room???? most people who are being cared for are normally in bed by that time and why is the door being left open to house of a disabled vunerable person???

I think your first point of contact would be to find out where the caretaker works and to give them a call and also does rosie have any family go round as im sure they would want to hear if their relative was being mistreated.

if all else fails call the police and voice your concern, this will not be rosies fault but will eventually come back on to the 'caregiver'.

you could ask rosie if she has considered having a key box put on the door so only people who know the number can access her key to get into the house.

good luck

Answer 3

You should definitely call the police without hesitation. You shouldn't think of it as a punishment for your neighbor, but instead, as a way to protect her. Sounds like you really think highly of this lady, and her caretaker is just steps away from abuse (if she's even that far, since you really don't know everything that's going on in that apartment).

If you feel that it might be upsetting to Rosie, if you can catch a time without the caretaker to speak with her, then explain to her that you are concerned about her current caretaker and want to see to her well-being, and this is the reason why you are calling the police.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I think Rosie is the one who will determine your next move. You could call the police only for the caretaker to to say it is what Rosie wanted or something like that. If you and Rosie could both agree that you are being irritated by the noise plus the caretakers consistent behaviour despite you approaching her about it severally, then you have a point. Rosie has to have a say.

Answer 5

Sounds like what Rosie needs is a set of headphones - they don't cost much and most TVs have a socket where they can plug in.

Contact Social Services in the first instance. If they are no help, tell them that you will have to, reluctantly, call the Police.

And do so. Don't imagine that you are betraying Rosie in any way, she won't be affected. The fact is, the care she is currently getting is substandard - leaving the door wide open for example - so you are actually helping her by reporting to Social Services.

Your own health is important, and it makes no difference whether the person causing the nuisance is a tenant or not, noise after 11pm is anti social. Please don't feel intimidated because Rosie is disabled, she and her carers have the same responsibility to be considerate neighbours as anyone else.

Good Luck and take care

Answer 6

First, your landlord is copping out on you. The police DO NOT have to be involved for them to get involved, and a responsible landlord should not say this to you. So, you can tell your landlord you expect them to take action without you involving the police. However, if they refuse to take action, or just say they will and won't (gee imagine my surprised look) you can try another way. Have you talked directly to the disabled woman? Frankly it sounds like the new caretaker is a cousin to your landlord. Why does she want the TV so loud? If she is hard of hearing, perhaps you could offer to help her find earphones she could use. I feel sorry for Rosie, good home help can be hard to find, so she may be putting up with a lot, but you shouldn't have to. And be sure to tell your landlord how irresponsible they are.

Answer 7

Hi well at the end of the day you live there you pay rent why shouldnt you call the police thats your home why should anyone make you feel uncomfortable in your own home it sounds like its not rosie bein awkward its the caretaker, could you inform the caretakers boss and let them know exactly whats happening im sure the agency/company would not like their name dragging through the mud good luck

Answer 8

Something tells me the caretaker isn't supposed to park Rosie in front of the TV and leave for hours. You should report her. Find out which company she is with, and if you can't get through that way, call the police. Tell them you are being disturbed and you are concerned about the way Rosie is being taken care of.

Disability or not, there are basic noise ordinance rules people have to follow.

Answer 9

Sounds like adult protective services need to be called and the caretaker reported since she left at 3 am and left the door open- ect- you can call the police - and not leave your name- maybe Rosie can get a set of headphones if she is hard of hearing- she must be a nightowl- D

Answer 10

Your landlord pulled a nasty little cop out. Not caring about tenants rights but expecting to get their money on the first of each month. I'd take my hard earned money and get out of that weirdo house. If you MUST stay call the police on your neighbors for disturbing the peace. Then call the caretaker's boss and leave a complaint with them.

Answer 11

I would call the employer of the caretaker. She is doing something wrong and her boss needs to take care of it. Rosie is not in good hands and it is disturbing her neighbors. Something needs to be done with the caretaker and only her boss can do that.