Before my stepdad and my mom got married my stepdad was nice and all that..... now he is being a complete jerk... Hes giving me this nasty remarks.... (exp. Today my mom wanted me to clean my carpet and told me to ask him to show me. He said " im only gonna show you how to mix it..... You know how to read directions dont u...U know how to read....) He said it in a really nastty tone...) My mom told him once when he was being a jerk...but she had surgery on monday and she really needs him and wont say anything..... and He keeps talking about me because I cant cook..... and all this stuff.... Im crying right now...because hes hurting my feelings..... but i afriad to tell my mom because he does all this stuff for me but he is mean about it...what do I do because im sick of him being mean to me...and my mom seems to start taking his side....
2006-10-29 07:18:10 · 12 answers · asked by ballerinagirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just for the record im fifteen.......
2006-10-29 07:20:46 · update #1
I feel your hurt and I know what you mean by him doing good things but not being nice about it. You should go somewhere and talk to your mom privetly. Tell her how you feel and let her know that you dont feel comfertible ( if you dont) and she can choose whether or not to talk to him. Dont try to talk to him on your own, he might get irettated and be to drastic about it. Do you ever think that he would hurt you? Definitly tell your mom if you feel this way, she can take car of that. Ask yourself " Would I feel OK being alone with this person in a room just me and him". If that scars you, you need to tell your mom cause that moment will come. Did he have a wife before this marrige? If so he might just be feeling confused with this letting go of his old past family. Talk to your mom, she can definitly help you and talk to your step dad herself. Make shore she knows your upset, she is allways there for you, she might be afriad to. Do not confront your step dad by yourself without your mom unless he brings it up. Dont let him make you miserable because he says things like that, when he does and it hurts you, that moment say " Did you mean that?".
At the family table make a comment that you work better under cunstructive critisisim. When he makes coments on your cooking abilitys say " mabye you could teach me sometime". Even though good old family time isnt much in style right now it might soften him up just a bit. Mabye thats his way of showing love to you is mesing around and he dosnt mean to hurt you. Just make shure you tell your mom about it. IM and tell me if it all works out. Good luck to you and God bless.
2006-10-29 07:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie*pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must speak to an grownup that you simply believe at tuition or within the loved ones. That habits is uncalled for. He knew that your mom had childern whilst he agreed to marry her. I am a step mother, and it's not the equal predicament, but when it was once I can inform you it might move not anything like that. This guy is in poor health and it makes him believe extra manly whilst he treats men and women this fashion. WHat I believe is that it makes him seem childest that he has to decide upon on females and childern. Why does not your mom do some thing approximately it? NEVERTHELESS, speak to an grownup that you simply believe, they are going to get you the aid that you wish to have and there may be aid in the market. Keep your chin up, it's going to be good enough, anyone will aid you! God bless you!
2016-09-01 04:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd seriously talk to your mom. Im sorry but if i were to get remarried and my husband was being an *** to my kids. I'd chew him out.
Sit down and say, mom, this is what he's said to me, you need to talk to him and ask him why he's being this way.
and if she doesnt. Id tell a counselor at school and have them talk to your mother. Because what he is doing could be considered verbal and mental abuse and with my past experiences, I'd recommend getting someone to intervene before it gets worse.
and trust me, the way you make it sound, it will.
2006-10-29 07:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to talk to him and tell him how you feel. I that doesn't work try the same thing with your mom. And if that doesn't work either ask one of your relatives to help you (grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc.). If you really can't solve the problem just pretend like he doesn't exist until you move out. It's hard but it must be done.
2006-10-29 07:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by midnight_girl49 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried telling him nicely that he is hurting you, cause with the wedding and all it could be stress and he doesnt know how hes acting, if that dont work, talk to a counselor at school
2006-10-29 07:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not express your feeling to both of them? that's the only way to take care of it. if you just go to your mom your step dad is going to feel that you are trying to get them to turn on each other. so, talk to them both at the same time.
2006-10-29 07:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk with your moms and let her know how much this is upsetting you. Otherwise, talk with your guidance counsellor at school.
2006-10-29 07:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to both of them together, let them know your being hurt by this...if you get a negative reaction to this, talk to someone about this..school, church, let them know what is going on,,they can maybe direct you and your family to counsciling
2006-10-29 07:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean? In an earlier question you said your step sis hates you but in capitol letters you said "my step dad, I LOVE HIM" so why now do you dislike him?
2006-10-29 07:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Daddy really loves me. He is good to me, helps me, really cares how i feel, and when i trip and fall He actually carries me. When nobody understands how i feel, He does.
My Daddy died for me.
He adopts.
2006-10-29 07:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy'sGirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋