Ok...my mom got this *** for a boyfriend they've been dating on n offf for years. Ihate him with a passion. Reason: he disrespected me...i went out one night n came in about 2 in the mornin n thankfully he left but they had sex in my house!!! they obviously had it in my house b/c he doesnt own a house or even live alone hes like 40 n lives with his parents. I hate him!!! I recently went to a football game n saw him with another girl!!! since the hurricane my mom n i were temporaily living in a one bedroom apartment n it just dawned on me that they probably had sex on the bed i was sleeping on!!! I want him gone. I talked to my mom about it n she said it was none of my buisness. Its not that I dont want her to date other guys cuz i do....i liked her past bfs!!! This one i just dont like....now my mom has no balls n is secretly goin out with him n makin up that shes been at work late or some stuff. I really want to move away n live with someone else....wat do i do???
2006-10-29 07:00:38 · 27 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
realistically you told your mum how you feel....if she wants to continue to date this man then really....it is her life.....if you cant respect her and her decisions then it is probably best that you move out and get a life of your own.....you havent said how old you are but i am assuming that you are over 20 seeing that you stay out so late....
2006-10-29 07:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, sometimes you have to deal with such people. And also very unfortunately, sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. As much as you would hate to think that your mom has been having sex with this man, she probably did. Mom's sex life is her business. However, it is completely wrong if he disrespected you, because he probably won't treat you any better if your mom and him end up getting married (which I know right now is a horrific thought for you,but it may be a reality) My best advice for the time being since you can't exactly just make him POOF and dissapear since your mom seems to be into him, is just to ignore him, accept him for what he is (an a ss) and try to not let him get to you. Good luck, I really do hope things get better for you I understand some situations really suck but I have faith that you will persevere.
2006-10-29 07:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your dislike for this guy comes through loud and clear. I'm sure you have your reasons. But the bottom line is your mom is an adult and she gets to make her own decisions- good and bad. It sounds like you have been honest with her about how you feel and that is really all you can do. Since she has had past bf's maybe this relationship will also end eventually... But the next guy might be worse.
Concentrate on building a good life for yourself- school, friends, hobbies etc. Be polite to the guy- it won't kill you. Your mom is allowed to have sex and it sounds like she doesn't have a lot of options as to where to do so. Good luck.
2006-10-29 07:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, it's not YOUR house. It's your mother's house. She can have sex with whoever and wherever in her own house. You can obviously see that this guy is a loser and your mom deserves better. You can't get this guy out of her life but you can talk to you mother about how you think she deserves better. Don't put all of your negative feelings towards him! The truth is that behind all this hatred for him is the fact that you love your mother a lot. Tell her that you love her and you just want the best for her. She'll do what she does. Just be there to support her for when she goes through hard times with him.
2006-10-29 07:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All in all it is your moms choice on who she wants to be with. That doesn't make it right though. Your mom sounds like my mom. My mom picks losers for some reason and I think its because she believes she doesn't deserve better. In fact it is your business who your mom dates even though you cant really do anything about it. She is thinking about herself right now instead of you. Let her know that she deserves better and that you think she could have anyone she wanted. If she throws the none of your business thing in your face tell her that it is your life too and that you used to think very highly of her and now you dont. Tell her that she is becoming a bad role model. Maybe hurting her feelings is the only way to get through to her. Its really hard to deal with and if your under age then you cant really choose where you live for now. I would just stick it out until you can leave. I couldn't take my step dad anymore so I moved in with my grandparents until I was 18. That was the smartest decision I ever made. My mom now realizes that she drove me away and we have a better relationship. If you have that option then go for it.
2006-10-29 07:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by angel l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-05 08:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is paying the bills? If your mo is paying, it isn't your house. Sorry to break your heart. If you really want him gone, you could kill him or break his legs (not recomended). You could tell your mom you saw him at an event with "some girl". If you think they are "*******" on your bed, put a camera in there or something... hide in the closet and snap a picture. leave your web cam on and hit record. Turn the screen off and they wont know. I don't think thats a reasonable thing to do. I'm sure your dad's lawyer would have a feild day with that statement if you were in family court.... that is, if you know who your daddy is...
2006-10-29 07:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by sirus3810 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is unfortunate that as a parent your mother's first instinct isn't to take care of you, but rather her own needs and wants. Also unfortunate that there really is no way to force her to behave as she should. If you have any other living arrangements open to you - I would suggest you take one (so long as it is a good one and not putting you in another uncomfortable situation). If your mother has a problem with it tell her you'll come home when she's ready to be a parent again.
2006-10-29 07:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am having a similar experience. All i did was let my mom know how i feel. Also, try to accept that your mom is making her own decisions for herself. But as for the sex on your own bed.... that's not cool. Even if it gets that crazy though, you should never attack your mother verbally about it for this will stress her out very very much. Instead, talk to her bf. Tell him you don't like him. Tell him that he hould change his ways. Like respect you more or not have sex on your bed.
2006-10-29 07:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let your mom know about how you feel on the subject.....but in the end, its her life so its gonna be her choice on who to go out with.....respect her decisions coz in the end, if he's really a d**k like you say he is, then she'll find that out for herself and leave him.....let her make her own mistakes and allow her to learn from them.....and remember: she's the mom and not the other way around.....good luck hun:)
2006-10-29 07:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jaybird21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it your house, or her house? Your mother is a grown woman, she is allowed to date who ever she wants, but it does sound like the guy she is with is a big time loser. Did you tell her about him being with some other girl? If you have told your mother and she continues to see him, then maybe you ought to thinking about moving in with a relative, but talk to her about it first.
2006-10-29 07:06:06 · answer #11 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋