So my friend has this little joke with a few other friends in my group, they all call themselves certain characters (she's a pirate). So for Halloween, of course, she's dressing up as one. Early in the month, I mentioned that I was thinking of being a pirate for Halloween and she basically (kind of joking) said that I couldn't be one, because she was.
I tried to find another costume, but nothing really came together. I already have the perfect things for the pirate costume, and now that Halloween is so close, I think maybe I should just be one. I feel a bit like my friend has the previous claim on being one thing, because of this joke-thing, and I don't want to be rude or for everything to be unpleasant because she's mad about it.
I know that for girls, you would never buy the same clothes as your friend- that's definitely considered rude. Is this the same kind of thing? It might be a bit weird to be the same thing, maybe... am I over-thinking all this? What should I do?
2006-10-29 06:53:08 · 13 answers · asked by twasbrillig 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks for the answers so far. Just a little note, I don't think my friend would in any way be up for coordinating our costumes, or telling anyone something like that. She's not really into anything cute-sy, and we're not close enough for that.
2006-10-29 07:00:47 · update #1
It's kind of strange to be the same thing as your friend. But, I wouldn't go through all the hassle to try to find another costume. Make it fun! On Halloween just joke around with her that you are dueling pirates from different ships or comrads on the open sea. Just have fun.
2006-10-29 06:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with most of the answers above, saying that you can go ahead and be a pirate. But I know that it may end up with your friend in a huff and how she doesn't want a pirate mate, etc. So if you are uncomforatble with the possibility of her giving you an attitude all night (and even after tuesday), then throw together a corpse or vampire, zombie something or other. Basicly you can get make up and just some clothes from a thrift store or something.
2006-10-29 07:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no... It is a good thing for a boy to be free to dress as a girl when it might be fun and appropriate. It is good for a boy to have no fear of girls clothes. Perhaps such activity will help teach him to be more receptive and respectful to girls, and more tolerant of people who are gay and transgendered. However, a boy should not be forced to dress as a girl if this would hurt his standing with his peers. Will other boys make fun of him? Will this hurt his self-esteem? His peers will want to know what he's to be for Halloween... will he tell them he has a girls costume? My advice is to allow for two costumes: one a wizard, one a witch. He would have the cute witch costume plus a long black robe which he would wear over the dress when he is trick-o-treating in his neighborhood. When he is outside of the normal range of his peers then he can pull off the robe. When his friends ask him what he was for Halloween he would be able to say he was a wizard...
2016-03-28 00:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I'm concerned, when the heck do you EVER find a single pirate? Never! They're always in groups because you can't man a pirate ship with only one guy.
I suggest you coordinate. A captain-First Mate theme would work well.
2006-10-29 06:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a pirate.... there was not only one pirate in the world you know... as long as the costumes look different there should be no problem... why don't you be a beautiful princess, so you'll be in the center of attention... and you friend will be jealous... nice payback for being mean...
2006-10-29 06:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by ILuvMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would just ask her if u guys could kinda dress-up together. theres a lot of girls @ my school who dress up as the same thing as each other and go trick-or-treating together as well. personally i think it looks really cute. my sister and i r actually both going out this year together, both as pirates. just suggest going together and just tell he wat u told us, how u kinda thought of the idea and u have the perfect stuff 2 wear. i think if she was a good friend she wouldn't care that much and go ahead a let u b it w/o getting mad @ u. :)
2006-10-29 06:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by cheercheer31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your friend over and come up with some ideas on how you can both be pirates but with different looks ..Two different looks will be great don't you think?
2006-10-29 07:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by tazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it would be ok, yall can just say that yall were part of a pirate crew or something like that, she shoulndt get mad over a stupid little costume
2006-10-29 06:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Chris M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check your closet and try to put together something else, you could go as a man by checking your dads closet! Next time don't tell your friend what you have planned!
2006-10-29 06:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a pirate u got everything lol
2006-10-29 06:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by sports_gurl_56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋