13yr old tried having sex, but what went wrong?

Question

first of all i know i am under-age , but i am really ready for it, i have known my bf for 3 years and have been with him for 1 year, the other night we tried having sex, he used a condom and when he tried entering me his penis wouldn't go in, could i be too small? could he have lost his erection slightly? he says it is his fault, but i just want to know some possibilities why that happend. he did finger me before hand and i got really 'wet' so i know that it wasn't to do with there not being enough lube. this is a really embarrassing question but i just need to know and see if it has happend to anyone else

Answer 1

All of the things you mention are possibilities. I don't know of anyone whose first attempts at sex were smoothly choreographed events like the ones in the movies. Mostly it's just two people fumbling around trying to figure things out, so to speak.

In your case, age could definitely be a factor. I don't want to be just another person saying "you're too young", etc. etc., but it definitely might be the case that your body hasn't finished maturing yet. Which is not to say that you don't feel hormonal yearnings or feel ready.

I am concerned about you. I'm glad that you used a condom, but please do be careful. Your body may be telling you to hurry up, but this isn't the Middle Ages when people became adults when they were in their teens, were married off to bear child after child (many of whom died), and then were considered old and often kicked off at the age of thirty or forty.

There's quite a distance between "can" and "should", and often, just because we "can" do something it doesn't mean we "should" or that it's right for us at this particular time.

I was 13, 14, 15, 16 once, and I was lucky. My boyfriend had a sister who had gotten pregnant, and he also respected me and didn't want to rush me. We both really, really wanted to have sex, but he cared about my well-being more than a romp in the front seat of his car and, to paraphrase his words, there are alternatives that won't expose you to pregnancy or disease.

Please. Be careful.

Answer 2

This is a sign that even though you think you are ready...you are not! Non only is your body physicall not ready, but you are not emotionally ready. Why would you do this at 13? Are you prepared to become a mother? The only way to prevent becoming a mother is to not have sex. Even if you use a condom or birth control....you can still become pregnant. I got pregnant on the pill.....twice. Condoms break...things go wrong. If you have to have sex with a guy to keep him...then you don't need him. If he is a lot older than you then shame on him for taking advantage of a young vulnerable girl. If he is your age....you both need to wake up and choose to not do this! If this is embarassing to you then you are too young! Remember...doubt means don't.

Answer 3

Hi,
I'm 14 i don't think u need an answer to that question. Experimenting is not always good. I know everyone says u are not ready but, truly think of the consequences and decide for yourself. You are very young and you have your whole life ahead of you. I am not saying a boyfriend is out of the question but it takes a life time to know a boyfriend. It didn't go in because it wasn't meant to be.

Answer 4

exhibit her a video of a reside birthing - a few truly ones - then inform her approximately ALL the postpardum stuff that occurs , the weeks of bleeding, the swollen breasts... ask her if she is able for that, if she says sure, then continue to coach her approximately the STD's which are in the market (INCLUDE PICTURES) that is wherein the web is available in REALLY useful. Once she is aware of what she is geting into, she would possibly re-bear in mind. DO NOT process her announcing "you are going to no longer have intercourse, or YOU HAVE TO STOP SEEING THAT BOY" if you want to simplest make her take a look at more difficult.

Answer 5

Just about everybody's first time is embarassing and does not go well, particullarly if you are to young. I know you think you are ready, but, should you get pregnant are you ready to be a mother? If not, then you are really not ready to have sex. Perhaps you should take this as a sign to wait another few years.

Answer 6

why are children trying to play an adult game, it makes no sense, why cant you just do other things besides sex? ruin your life??? you will regret it if you do it now, this will be one of your conversations down the road "oh i lost my virginity at 13, and i was pregnant at 14" thats cute! you wont be much of a mother at such a young age, and dont think i dont know where you are coming from because i do.... ive done it, and please dont think that,"oh i cant get pregnant, stuff like that doesnt happen to girls like me" honey they do!! believe me they do.... i got pregnant at 16 had my kid at 17, i almost didnt graduate... and you are willing to loose your life for a piece of *** that lasts for 2 minutes?? makes no sense, children now a days are just so ready to grow up so fast.... in all honesty, id rather see a 13 year old smoke pot than have sex... at least you cant get pregnant from weed alone...

Answer 7

well your goin to do wat u want to do.. i kno from experience i was a wild child hwen i was younger. but if you want to have sex go for it. my first time the same thing happened. we could do it and we had to try again and again. its cause u were both prolly a little nervouse, u are still a virgin so you are still tight and its hard to go in, and if he is a virgin he might not know exactly where to go and how hard to push and what not. its good that you use condoms and if you are goin to have sex you might want to get on birth control, there are clinics out there where you can get it with out having your parents kno and they give free condoms. but chances are he didnt really kno where to go, and it could be that he lost it a little out of nerves and embarassment, cause the guy is supposed to kno these things hahah but dont worry about it. its tough the first time, you are really tight. a finger or 2 is alot different then a penis. its goin to take some work to get in there and could possibly hurt. i suggest use lube, lots of it. you and him so its less painful. and good luck next time.. eventually it will go in, jsut keep trying...and dont listen to all those who yell at u. sex is great

Answer 8

Why are you even considering this when ur not even out of middle school yet? Are you ready for the emotional stress that comes with this? just because u've known him for 3 years doesn't mean he won't say bye bye if u become pregnant! did u even think about what ur parents would say if u got pregnant?

Answer 9

Although your body is saying "yes" your brain is saying "no". Same thing happened to me and I was 17. I knew it felt good, but I also knew I wasn't emotionally ready. My boyfriend who is now my husband was very understanding and he truly cared for me. We decided to wait another year and waited for the right time and place. Trust me it will be a way better experience if you wait. Enjoy life and enjoy being a young child.

Answer 10

first of all stop feeling embarrased. there is nothing in it to be imbarrased. well u'v got to, firstly understand that u r underage, but as u r really curious, i'll tell u. look, this is the time that the secondary growth in ur body is at its peak. so in this age there is secretion of some hormons like oestrogen n progestrone which reasults in u willing having sex with ur bf. now the case could be that either ur pussy could be too small for his penis or that his penis was not erect at the time he tried. well i wont say havin sex at this age is wrong but yaa if u cant control, u may ask ur bf to finger u. this will be best for both of u at this age, n yaa if possible try n avoide havin sex until u r say 17 or something. n yaa there is nothing wrong with both of you so dont worry be happy n yaa enjoy...