Is this a case of transferral?

Question

My older brother and I used to be close growing up, but as the years have gone by and since we have both married, we have grown apart.
Just recently he moved back to this country with his young family and My husband and I caught up with them.
I found him to be very aloof and strange, and very, very distant. It hurt me a lot... He has shared some things with my mum, one of them being his concern for his 11 year old daughter. To me, she is perfect(and probably is) but to him she is rebellious. She is restricted in a lot of ways socially - not allowed to bring friends home, have birthday parties, must dress in a certain way etc.She is very shy and I see a lot of myself in her.. But then he said something
something very strange to my mother the other day which got me thinking. He said, "I always remember _ _ _ _ _ (me) in this photo where I am wearing a blue dress. I was so sweet and so innocent. And then he said"Why do we have to grow up?Is he referring to his own daughter?

Answer 1

=I am sorry to say this but I feel there is an abusive situation going on here. Why is the mother allowing this to happen. Your niece is suffering here by not allowing her to have natural childhood experiences and growth and development which will have an effect on her in later years. You need to step in and do something for her. Is she shy or afraid? Does this have to do with your brothers religious beliefs? I am so happy that you recognize that something is wrong here. Please help her and God bless. The link below is not exactly what I was looking for, but should give you some insight and the motivation to do some research yourself.

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http://www.relationshipweb.com/archives/...

Answer 2

Is your brother struggling with depression? It kind of sounds that way? If not that then something. I suggest he seeks a therapist.