ok im 17 and i am over weight but i have been working out and i lost about 10 pounds and i was really proud of myself but then i got the flu this week and i havnt been able to keep anything down so i lost even more weight and then my dad told me i was fat but the week of not eating and trowing up really did me some good! i dont ever want to eat again.
any advise?
2006-10-29 06:13:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your dad was insensitive. Forgive him, but don't listen to him.
You need to eat. Don't even think about trying anorexia or bulimia.
Keep working out and eat healthy foods. You'll be fine.
2006-10-29 06:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey there, congrats on the weight loss and sorry about the flu... i have it right now and it SUCKS!!!!
Your dad is an *** for what he's been saying. God my dad was the same way, only I was underweight for my height and i listened to his mean comments...
and where did that get me???
Well, a handful of hospitalizations and near death experiences from an eating disorder.
Trust me you do NOT want to go down that road, and if your dad says that again, tell him nice job on promoting eating disorders, great parental advice!!!
and keep doing what you've been doing, diet and excerise.
There is much more to a person than weight and size, and you'll feel much better when you lose the weight the right way, than if you lose it the wrong way and end up possibly killing youself in the process.
good luck hun
2006-10-29 16:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah Sweetheart! (BIG HUG) That must have really hurt your feelings for your Dad to say something like that. From your question, I am wondering, do you have a good relationship with your dad? Doesn't sound like it. I am no expert but I am a Mom as well as an overweight woman. I have been over weight my whole life so I can honestly say, I can relate with you. My Grandmother was exactly like your dad! Anyhow, enough about me.
If i were in your shoes, I would have said something to my father. (Unless of course you are not able to...if he is abusive, etc...please don't say anything as I really do not want for you to get hurt, besides if he is abusive, you must get out of there! Ok, back to my point!) You are 17. You are not a baby. You can say something to him, but with respect. Let him know how he hurt your feelings. Let him know that you are working hard to get your weight issue under control and that his comments were not fair! You have to remember though, he is your dad and you need to be respectful of him...but being your dad does not give him a right to talk down to you hun! Sooooo, be nice, smile...and tell him "Dad, I love you and respect you...but what you said really hurt my feelings." Then let it go. Never hold a grudge because it is only you that hurts in the long run! Let it go like water off a duck's back! I truly wish you all the best. There are worse things in life than being over weight hun! You have to love yourself, no matter what size you are! If you choose to lose weight, that is YOUR choice. Good luck kiddo!
2006-10-29 14:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by evieluvsu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the comment your father made was wrong and insensitive.
Firstly congratulations on losing 10 pounds - you should be very proud of yourself!
Sorry that you have been sick but, I suppose it was another good way of losing some weight.
You have to continue to eat otherwise you will get very sick,
Right now, you have to ignore what your father said.
You are not fat. You have lost weight and chances are you will continue to lose weight.
Speak to your mom about this. Let her know what is happening.
Continue to stick to your diet plan and work hard at the exercise.
Prove to yourself that you can lose weight the sensible way.
If you have to - prove to your father that you can.
Then again, you don't have to prove to your father anything nor should you listen to his insensitive comments.
Please don't starve yourself. This is not right. :)
2006-10-29 14:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is very insensitive and I am sorry for that. You have to eat, it is a must. However, just eat more healthy foods, and exercise. This should be very helpful in you loosing some weight. Be sure to eat breakfast, eat fresh fruits, vegetables and healthy foods. Eat foods that are boiled, broiled or baked and cut back on fired foods. Good luck and God bless, Hope you are feeling better soon.
2006-10-29 14:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all do not starve yourself that results in nothing it seems as though your father has some issues he needs to work on himself he probably feels or is upset about something on his part and thinks its ok to be rude to you. tell him how you feel even though he is your father and a adult and should know better that he is not helping the situation only will make it worse or lead to something worse and he really needs to grow up if he thinks its ok to mentally abuse his daughter cause thats what it is. i know its hard also if he doesnt want to change just ignore him and keep your regular diet how you were before you got sick and in the end he will feel like an a** for how he was even though he already should. just please don't do anything dumb because of him, you should be the stronger person in this situation even though he is the father
2006-10-29 15:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your dad manipulate you like this. I'm sorry and I know you love your dad but that was just uncalled for. You were doing great working out keep up with that. You don't want to have to recover from anorexia or bulimia some day. I will talk to you wish I'm a few years older and have been in your shoes.
2006-10-29 14:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not right of your Dad to say that about you, but don't go to extremes. After you get to feeling better stay on a healthy diet and exercise. You will lose the weight you want to.Shame on your Dad.
2006-10-29 14:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad probably did not mean to be cruel ... parents are usually at a loss when it comes to supporting their teenagers ... and it seems dads are the worst at it... he more than likely thought he was giving you encouragement ... If only they could hear themselves! My dad always gave backhanded compliments ... they really hurt and you need to put it where it belongs ... behind you ... you were on the right track before you got sick ... you were proud of yourself and that's what counts ...
2006-10-29 14:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by kissedatoad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your weight loss.
I hope you've recoverd from the flu.
Your dad was insensitive.
Ignore him.
It's impossible not to eat, so eat a healthy diet and get some exercise.
2006-10-29 14:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋