my fiance has his x girlfriends name on his arm should I?

Question

break up with him we have been engaged for 7months now and he said he was going to get it removed in the summer. Do you think he still loves her. He says he doesnt even notice that is there. I dont think he gets the point or respects that it hurts me to see that. What should I do.

Answer 1

i agree with you, its a matter of respect to you...if the tats not to big have him put another one over it, it does mean he still loves her, but a tat is not so easy to wash off,lol.
if he refuses to get it removed then i would worry, if he loves you, then there should not be any problems.
don't tat someones name on you, esp. a g/f, b/f, they can be gone in a minute..obviously true in this case

Answer 2

He had the tattoo before he met you. Did you think that he wanted to get back with his ex when he met you ? You still continued to see him so why question the tattoo now.How was he to know that you would become engaged to you after meeting him? A tattoo can always be covered. I think that should be the least of your worries. I could see if he had gotten the tattoo after you were engaged. If he still loved his ex he wouldnt have asked you to marry him.

Answer 3

I'm quite sure the tat was there before you decided to get engaged. Why does it hurt you so now? If it bothered you so much why did you get engaged? Its sort of redundant now to be so affected by it and you guys are engaged. Is it really worth breaking up over?

Answer 4

Explain to him how you feel about it. It cost a lot to get it removed. Maybe take him to the tattoo parlor and see if they can put something over it. My moms ex husband had his ex wifes name on his arm and he got another tattoo over it. Try suggesting that. Going with him might make it more fun for the both of you. Maybe you can help him pick one out. Make it a event.

Answer 5

You have 3 options.
1. Believe him when he tells you he doesn't even notice that is there and let it go. You agreed to marry him, so you trust his feelings for you.
2. Nag, cry, be jealous, upset and keep going on about it until he does get your "point" and has it removed. Demand he wear a giant bandage over it until it's gone.
3. Find a guy without a tattoo

Answer 6

i would suggest having it turned into something else ....i heard it was painful and didnt always work to have it removed....and he loves you and is marrying you ...not her. he had the tattoo before you got engaged so its probably true that now he doesnt even really notice it. i wouldnt worry about it but tell him how you feel.

Answer 7

well, getting a tattoo removed is really hard and painful. I dont think that you should break up with him just for that. and he is marrying you for a reason! trust that he loves you and the tattoo is just a tattoo. (but he should get it removed before you say your 'I Do's'.)

Answer 8

I think you should have a heart to heart with him. If he doesn't respect how important to you after that then yes; you should break up. Sorry; but, if he doesn't respect you in the little things generally he won't respect you in the big things.

Answer 9

I think you should suck it up the man said he was getting it removed for you honey he loves you do you relize that it will be painful to get that removed ( well depending on how well he takes pain that it LoL)

Answer 10

if you are engaged to him that mean he loves you and only you. i think you are thinking about his ex more than he is and i think you should just let it go.. maybe be doesn't want to spend his money on removing it but is saving his money for your wedding!! just be patient and let it go