Im in relationship with an amazing guy.....but in love with another!!! I dont wanna hurt my boyfriend and have had a shaky past with the lover boy....advice???????
2006-10-29 05:58:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The heart can be split in two and still survive. Enjoy what you have because you may end up with nothing.
2006-10-29 06:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you are "madly in LOVE with the other" or is it an out of control attraction that "feels" like love? If you were to take the emotion out of the relationship, which guy would you pick and why? You said you are in a relationship with an "amazing guy." It sounds to me like you value and respect this person but maybe something is missing that the other guy is filling. Is it love with Mr. Shaky or does your relationship with Mr. Amazing need a booster shot? As you go through life you will find that you can and will be attracted to many different men, yes, even when you have a good solid one! This just means that you are alive my dear!! Doesn't mean you need to act on everything you feel. My advice is to enjoy the feelings the other man brings out in you but don't betray Mr. Amazing. I think if you just sit back and let yourself experience the wonderful range of emotions and loving feelings one can experience without feeling you must act on them or make a decision; that in time, you will see clearly the one that is right for you. I'm putting my money on Mr. Amazing! I think one of the hardest lessons in life is to realize that we are beautiful feeling beings that are meant to enjoy what feelings we experience. One day you will learn to just appreciate what you allow to happen in each moment with each attraction. You will "love" many, but not all will be good for you. You will learn to look at those feelings as they pop up from nowhere and say, "Wow", that is so interesting that I am feeling so attracted! If in time you see Mr. Shaky with clarity and not from your emotions, and you still feel that he is Mr. Right, then end your relationship with Mr. Amazing and move on. It is not fair to Mr. Amazing to be in a relationship with him if your heart has already left. He deserves better.
2006-10-29 14:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and quit day dreaming about what is not and make something of what is..... A great guy today is better than a shaky ex any day of the week - If you leave the ex behind, you are liable to fall head over heels in love with the AMAZING guy! Amazing is better than shaky any day ONCE AGAIN!
2006-10-29 14:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by SKayeMesqTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if this amazing guy was in love with someone else? You're going to hurt him either by breaking up with him or by continuing to see lover boy behind his back. Sounds like you don't love the amazing guy as much as he loves you so your best bet would be taking some time away from both men and wrestling with your own emotions by yourself instead of putting their hearts in limbo.
2006-10-29 14:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated amazing guys, but there was no spark. I have wanted to be with someone else even though I am with an amazing guy. But you know what? Neither of the guys matter at all. Its you that matters. You do whats best for you. Maybe you need some time to be single to figure out what you really want. Thats what I did and now i am ready for that amazing guy with a spark.
2006-10-29 14:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by divinephi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should put both relationships on hold for now. Being alone and being single can give you great perspective. You will know exactly where you want to go from there!
2006-10-29 14:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually to be frank guys would really mind if your attention is not on him...especially when he's your boyfriend...in relationship,people always thinks that the next one would be better...you wouldnt know until the day both guys actually met...but it wouldnt be a pleasant moment for you...anyway good luck
2006-10-29 14:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by alienlimguni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you are with. So girl grit your teeth let bygones be bygones enjoy your man but if it gets worse you start eating, breathing nd living the one that you are "inlove" with then you gotta go bra !
2006-10-29 14:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to maintain because your feelings for one can be greater than the other and it is so hard to let anyone \go but it is possible to have feelings for two people I know and sometime it gets real difficult but if it is something that you want to maintain you will find the path
2006-10-29 14:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your boyfriend. The guy you love can wait.
2006-10-29 14:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by puppypal710 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋