They ground me for the smallest thing and i am really beginning to hate them what should i do?
2006-10-29 05:56:41 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im 14 is tht ok?
2006-10-29 06:04:41 · update #1
Without more detail and your age this is a difficult question to answer. Suggest you list on paper all the reasons why you feel that your parents should not be grounding you and see if in fact they are merely attempting to impose boundaries , or rules, that you need to be following and are not doing so. If you still think that you are being treated unfairly, then you might write up an agreement form as to what you think your freedoms and responsibilities should be. Submit this to your parents and see if you all can come to an agreement that makes common sense. Parents generally do not hate their children but are only attempting to do what they think/feel is best for them ... even if it does seem unfair. Hating your parents is a stressful way to be. Give this technique a try and see if you can have less stress on yourself and your parents....
2006-10-29 06:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by blockhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of your answers so far have been encouraging you to talk to your parents about how you feel - and they are right on target. I was also raised by parents that were extremely strict with me.. and they had very good reason. I am now grown and I have a son of my own... he has rules, but I have made them so that he can learn how to be a good and decent person, and so that he can grow up to be a wonderful adult.. and I am sure that your parents have the same goals in mind for you. Please talk to them, and if that is too hard, try writing your feelings down, even if you never show anybody. Perhaps this will give you some perspective of the situation.... and I promise, you will look back someday and really appreciate what your parents have done for you.
2006-10-29 14:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get annoyed at my parents for shouting at me or telling me off for the smallest things I just think to my self. 'Well when I have moved out of home and have a life of my own they will have no control over me or what I do, and that will frustrate the hell out of them I promise you. Also when I have children I now know not to treat them like I was treated when I was a child. I learn form there mistakes. I hope things get better taker care love Miss T
2006-10-29 15:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were like that right up until the age of 18 when I left home.I have a son of 15 and I am a lot more lenient on him because I remember how unhappy I was as a child.
2006-10-29 14:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent and I like to think that my kids and I have a good relationship, because I'm strict. Your parents love you and they know the dangers of the real world. Be happy that you have parents who loves you enough to ground you because they want the very best from their child. you will be thankful for such parents by the time you have your own children.
2006-10-29 14:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Diane B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are just strict. Given the violence in the world these days they're trying to protect their kids. Try to present them with a rational argument on why they should ease up on you. They need to know that you are responsible enough to take care of yourself.
2006-10-29 14:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okkkk, if they are inflicting corporal, or physical punishment on you, thats child abuse, so its your choice to report it or not. If its a simple situation where you do something wrong and they ground you, its ok, believe me, itl develop your disipline later on in life and you will thank your parents, they just want whats best for you. If you really think that they ground you for EVERTYHTING, just talk to them both together and try to negociate a solution,.
2006-10-29 14:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by coolchess123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents never want the bad of their children .you might have grown up but for your parents you'll always be a small child.if they are getting over, there is nothing better than an open and friendly talk with them. tell them that you get hurt by such strictness.they'd understand.....
and yes ,never think of hating your parents;even in your dreams!!
2006-10-29 14:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by nilu v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should keep in mind that they are looking out for your best intrests, I am sure there is a reason for everything they do and maybe a lesson in it for you. learn everything you can from them. try to build a relationship with them that maybe will get you grounded less often. Charish all the good times.
2006-10-30 00:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by midesweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, they are not strict enough.
if you fell off a cliff way high up and into a river i can guarantee they are the ones that would actually risk their lives and head in after you, when was the last time you said you loved them? like never i guess, you spoilt little sod.
2006-10-29 16:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋