Someone who has lived there whole life very unorganized and very messy.
2006-10-29 05:53:58 · 16 answers · asked by Inamra 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You can't , don't even try.
Hire housecleaners.
People just are how they are. And whatever that is they become more like that as they age.
2006-10-29 05:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By example, by helping out, and by not adding to the problem.
I grew up very neat but when I got married, my husband thought it was hilarious when he would throw that damp paper towel at me after washing his hands and plopping his rear into his favorite chair. Then he started draping his clothes over the hamper... then leaving his used pants at bottom of the stairs after work (always with a 'logical' excuse') but HE was the NEAT one. DUH, my kids were 'monkey do' and followed his lead so now the house is a wreck and I'm to blame.
I'm not saying anything about you, and I don't know your situation, but if it applies, look at how much of it is you being a help or a hindrance.
Oops, it's you. Someone once said, don't look at the whole thing. Break it down into a room at a time and if need be, an area at a time and when you are done the area, you ACCOMPLISHED it... be proud and move to the next area. Make a list of everything you want to do and do each until you are finish. Break it down to the areas... number them if you need to and use it as a check list. If you find yourself being overwhelmed, then stop, go back, clean the clean areas until you get use to those areas being clean. Do you have a friend to do/help with the non personal things like trash and dusting until you get all done? It also makes the time pass faster and easier/less boring. Good luck.
2006-10-29 16:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, some people just did not get an organized or a clean gene. Those people can be taught some skills, but it will never be up to someone who got the gene's standards. Some got it, some ain't. It just will never be automatic to pick up and organize as they go.
Call my Mom in Valhalla, she will tell you about her daughter who's house is always messy. Her's was immaculate.
2006-10-29 14:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to make a list of things to do and set a reasonable goal of how many things, even if it's something "required" every day, they feel they can accomplish daily. Everything they want to accomplish on the list will happen, if they remember "Rome wasn't built in a day". As for cleaning: Remind them of the last bug they saw or ask them how long the letter was that they wrote in the dust.
2006-10-29 14:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough - they have to want to be organized and be clean and be willing to put in the time to keep it that way. It's not as hard to initially become organized or have someone come in and organize things for you, but staying that way and keeping up with it is the hard part. I think you have to teach someone to be consistent and easy ways to manage their organization. The Container Store is great!
2006-10-29 14:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Molly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well, I don't think you can. I'm quite messy and unorgnized and the only thing that slightly gets me to change is if what I don't want to lose or what I need organized is extremely important to me. Like my kids birth certificates, social security cards, etc... Everything else, oh well.
2006-10-30 12:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who is disorganized and messy probably has someone else cleaning up after them. The other person should stop enabling this behavior and begin setting limits and issuing negative consequences if need be. There's nothing like "consequences" to motivate someone..
2006-10-29 13:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by example because I learned from my mom but I still am not as organized as her but sometimes you have to clean with the person and show them how not everyone is blessed with the organization gift they like to hold on to everything and it is all out of place
2006-10-29 13:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jaime T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You often can't. It's a personality trait of theirs. I personally am rather messy, but not from lack of trying to be neat. It just never works out. Accept them for who they are instead of trying to change them.
2006-10-29 13:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by legallyblond2day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i gave up 2 years ago . still trying to teach my step children to clean there room and failing miserably
2006-10-29 13:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by cheriemrrsn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to get someone to change their ways, espically if they're not interested in changing. If they want to change, then showing them by example is the best way.
2006-10-29 14:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋