My co-worker invited me to her wedding in December. It's probably going to be very small and low-key and I'm probably only going to the ceremony (which will most likely be all in Spanish since the invitation is) and not the reception. Is it required for me to bring her a gift? If so, how big/expensive would it have to be? I don't make much and she knows this, so I'm not sure what she's expecting.
2006-10-29 05:37:53 · 15 answers · asked by badkitty8604 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-11-02 04:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by drea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've been invited to the wedding, the polite thing to do is to bring a gift (no matter what language the ceremony is in!).
Has she registered a gifts' list at a local department or specialty store (ask her)? The store will show you what she wants and what has already been purchased. If you're on a tight budget or not really close to this co-worker, it's possible to buy something well within your means (a salt and pepper set, one teacup and saucer, a set of linen tea towels...etc.)
Make sure you find (or, if possible, make) a pretty card and let her know in your own words how happy you are for her on this special day...
She may not be expecting anything other than your presence (I've actually received wedding invitations which said "Your presence not presents is requested..."). But it's nice and thoughtful to make a gesture.
2006-10-29 14:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd bring a gift of some kind. If you're not sure what to get, buy a gift card from Bed Bath & Beyond, Linens n Things, or some store like that. I'd go for about $50 on the gift card, but if that's outside your budget, then $25 is okay (especially since she knows you don't make much.)
2006-10-29 14:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by locolady98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, you would only give a gift if you were going to the reception, because at the reception, you would be given a meal. So, if you are only going to the ceremony, you don't really have to buy a gift. However, if you want to give her a modest present, then do so.
2006-10-29 13:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should. The cost of the present should be within your means, and take into consideration that you will not be attending the reception, so they do not have to buy a meal for you. But you should consider going, it might be cool to see a reception done by another culture.
$25 is about right, if you don't go to the reception.
2006-10-29 13:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never "required" to give a wedding gift, just in good taste unless, for some reason it's specified (as in some multi-numbered weddings) not to do so. Since you don't make much, get a money card and give her the most you feel comfortable giving. She can then do what she and her husband want with the money.
2006-10-29 13:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should bring a gift. If you are on a tight budget, about $20-25 should be adequate. If all else fails, a gift card to a restaurant is always a nice gift...and keeps you well within your budget.
2006-10-29 13:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by EoC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should always bring a gift, even if it's something small, to a wedding
2006-10-30 19:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should at least get/make her a nice card. If you can enclose a small gift card to a favorite store that would be nice..or maybe get a collection together and card from everyone at work.
2006-10-29 13:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be the proper thing to do but it doesnt have to be expensive I suggest Target because you can find them something there for a reasonable price and if all else fails get them the target wedding gift card but sometimes its cheaper to pick out something your self and wrap it up really pretty
2006-10-29 13:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jaime T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course get a gift for her, infact gifts may reflect how special she is to you, it doesn't matter big or small, a gift is always a gift even a flower bouqet can be called gift. after all its her wedding.... go ahead dear
2006-10-29 15:38:24 · answer #11 · answered by Rahman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋