Would you rather be married and have a man who made good money who could provide a good life for you and the children you have if you had any. Be able to travel and not worry about money and all. Get little gifts all the time and all. OR would you rather have a poor or cheap guy and have to work 2 jobs just to pay the basics and never get to travel or have anything nice? Personally I would chose the first answer. And before anyone starts going on that they would rather be happy with a poor man who treated them well than a rich man who abused them, not all poor men are nice and not all rich men are abusive. It seems everyone thinks if you have a poor guy he is going to treat you great, well that's not true, as I have dating some poor guys who treated me like crap. And as far as rich people, I have met a lot of nice ones. And as far as independence, what is indepedent about working yourself half to death and just getting by?
2006-10-29 05:33:07 · 11 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well to answer one response, I'm not that young. I was married to a poor guy who didn't even finish high school. He managed to provide although he did have get help from his friends. He was a horrible person though and abandon me and our child. What is wrong with wanting to have a better life? I work but I will never make enough to have a good life. And as far as being "normal" I think I am normal. Just because women's attitudes have changed doesn't make them normal and me not.
2006-10-29 05:42:53 · update #1
I would rather be with someone who loved & respected me. And provided for me and the children. If they guy was rich wonderful! If not, thats okay too!
The more imporant thing for me would be how he is as a human being. Of course it would be "nicer" or more "conveniant" if he was a rich man.... Just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man. HOWEVER, I want a good man man who loves and takes care of me.
Tree~
2006-10-29 05:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tree S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a very successful man. I have dated "poor men" that treated me like garbage and "rich men" that treated me like gold. It depends on the person not the dollars in their wallet. But SOME men with money DO have the mindset that they can act and do anything they want because they have it. I am glad to be out of the whole dating game as it is.
2006-10-29 13:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cherrybomb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be in a situation like I am now where I am financially independent and that means I don't need anyone to "provide" for me. I make more than enough money to do whatever I want to do - travel, shop, drive a nice car, whatever - and so does my partner. When two people are equal in the finance department they can just be together because they WANT to not because one of them NEEDS to be "taken care of" and therefore has to look for that quality in a prospective mate.
Plus if things don't work out I don't have to stay with someone because I am dependent upon them to provide for me.
2006-10-29 13:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am i missing the point here! You didn't mention that the rich man or the poor man were abusive. Y would anyone choose the poor cheap guy. No one would but if its your true love, you don't get to choose but you can be supportive of him and pray he isn't always poor!
2006-10-29 13:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're going to have a LOT of trouble finding a man who is willing to provide for you in the manner you seem to want. Why would he choose somebody like you when he could have a normal woman who doesn't mind taking care of herself? Men don't want to be used like that, and the fact that you're willing to openly indicate that what you want is a sugardaddy is evidence of your youth and inexperience.
2006-10-29 13:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by BoardingJD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, with the situation you set up, we're ALL going to choose the rich guy!
Would you rather have a day at the spa or your eyes poked out? C'mon lol!
2006-10-29 13:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Judy L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, it's just as easy to love a rich guy as it is a poor one. but you seem to be more about comfort than love anyway. there's probably some happy medium out there, and you'll find it once you achieve that comfort level. then you'll tell yourself I'm in love.
2006-10-29 13:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course everyone would choose number one, because you gave no negative outcomes of that choice. And your second alternative was all negative. So maybe you should rephrase your message and give positive and negative highlights of the two, because the way you made the question, it's totally skewed (one sided).
2006-10-29 13:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just look for real love, to me it doesn't matter if the guy is poor or not.
2006-10-29 13:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by lady butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, those are the choices u give? Daaaa, who's gonna pick the poor guy? COME ON!!
2006-10-29 13:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kibs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋