I'm 25/female/London , attractive and a good person, but it seems like I can't find someone to be in a relationship.
After being on Personals websites (Match and Yahoo personals) since the beginning of the year till now...I've finally given up...and I'm getting really depressed about not having found someone to be with.
I've been single forever, and I've never been in a relationship, because I'm waiting for a genuine connection, and I don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one...but it seems like the price to pay for that is daily lonliness.
I have lots of friends and they are all great, and I love my job and family , etc...but coming home in the evening and being in your flat alone through the night is becoming increasingly depressing...
Having been on countless dates, I'm just really amazed at how far people are willing to go to waster your time!
How can I cope with being single untill I meet that special person...although I've taken a break.
2006-10-29 05:31:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't have expectations that are too high...because I don't really care about physical attraction on it's own...but I care more about the person's personality...but it seems as if more and more people are just superficial or are just out for a quick sh*g!
2006-10-29 05:32:29 · update #1
I am a 43 year old man. Have a great career, my own house, cars, money. I am educated and well rounded. I was married for 18 years and got divorced several years ago as while I was working my tail off, my wife was working hers off too, but with everyone else but me.
Anyway, I have been single for 5 years now. Been on countless dates and have also tried the web-dating thing. I have also come to conclude that its all a "game" that I no longer want anything to do with. Everyone I have met are insane, on drugs, are looking for a daddy for them and / or their kids or have one symbol in mind that they look for more than anything: "$$$$".
Now that you see that I understand you, I can only give you one real bit of advise:
Although it is not pleasent to be alone all of the time, it sure beats being with the wrong person. You must make peace with yourself that its not a bad thing to have high standards. Do not under any circumstances give up your dream and then find someone to "settle" for. Never let anyone take advantange of you. Wait for the right person to come along.
You have the benifiet of youth. You must be patient and know that eventually that person will cross your path. Wait for the person you can not live with out, not the one you can live with.
2006-10-29 05:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
... girl, you're only 25. I admire your standards and not settling for less. Keep waiting. Until then, perhaps just learn to enjoy being happy and satisfied with yourself. I've only had one relationship ( a year), and dated a new guy occasionally every 6-12 mths (lasts 3 wks or less), since my relationship ended. At 21, over 2 yrs, that's 4 lousy guys in 2 yrs. I don't care honestly. I'm still in touch with those guys I dated, we're friends, it works, I'm happy and satisfied being single hoenstly. Go out with your friends more or something. DO thinks you wouldn't do if you were in a relationship. Oh, and perhaps London just isn't the place to find the non-superficial guys? Sounds like Los Angeles... maybe look for someoen online who is outside the city limits.
2006-10-29 05:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you're 25 - you have a long and bright future ahead of you.
Secondly, it appears your expectations are too high - watch the "initial" chemistry - it doesn't happen right away. If you meet a guy and it doesn't click right away and he's a good prospect (i.e. nice, treats you like gold), get to know him - go out on a few dates - who knows.. you may just fall for what's inside !!
Thirdly, keep yourself busy - go out with friends, join a gym, go hiking, rollarblading, travel (if possible), ice skating, etc.
Fourth - JUST LIVE - Fate will bring you someone at the right time.!
Fifth - Again, don't expect too much then "you'll never be disappointed".
Sixth - Again - Go out ! Don't stay at home - Attend venues where there will be lots of people - and make new friends !
Seventh - If you have a personals ad - "smile" in your pictures - make sure your pics are natural pics of what you like to do, not ones taken at a Sears Studio
All the best !
2006-10-29 05:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by FunInTheSun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're taking a break from dating then do just that...don't think about it...hang out with friends, go to the movies, shopping, etc..fill you time with other activities for a while. I've found that when you stop focusing on finding that right one..that's when someone comes into your life. You must realize that there is no perfect man and if you come across someone who has some of the qualities you are looking for take a chance..you never know...
2006-10-29 05:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by KB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I wanna say I think you have the tools and the attitude that could make a great relationship! That said, you are doing the right thing at the moment by taking a break. What kinds of things are you interested in? Do you have in particular hobbies? You could join groups in your area that are centered around those things and you never know, you may end up meeting that special person in route to having fun! Good luck!
2006-10-29 05:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bridget Jones. You aren't the only one in the world who is looking for a mate. Coping being single until you meet that special person is really hard, but keep it up, because he will come waltzing into your life when you least expect it. Meanwhile, focus on your fabulous self. Get really involved in your community, all that stuff you put off doing, DO....(i.e. travel, learn to ride a motorbike, cooking classes, learn to speak spanish, go back to school). Then pamper yourself. i.e. while you are alone in flat at night, give yourself a pedicure. Plunk in a bridget jones movie and cry and laugh your head off. You won't be single forever, embrace it!
2006-10-29 05:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're going about this the wrong way.
If you spend time with a person who is fun to be around you're not wasting your time. You could end up with a very good friend.
You are wasting your time if you're focusing on having a "real" relationship and nothing else will do.
"Real" relationships don't start out that way....they are nurtured and coaxed along slowly.
2006-10-29 05:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know what you want. Go for walks in the park, join groups that interest you, keep busy even if it is a good book on relationships, dating, sex etc. There are alot of things to keep your mind off of being alone!
2006-10-29 05:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 08:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit looking! Go out and do the things that you like to do. That way when you do meet someone, they will be like minded in your interests.
2006-10-29 05:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by drudude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋