hes coming in town the second weekend in Nov but he says that its just for us to heal not for us to get back together should i try to win his heart back. HE says hes still in love with me and that his guard is just up right now and he just doesnt know if we can get back together how do i fix this i am so in love with him
2006-10-29 05:28:32 · 14 answers · asked by independent_lay03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time honey. Thats the best healing he can get.
U should apologise for whatever u said or did and let time work its magic i guess....
coz frankly wats supposed to happen wil happen...
but what u guys need is a healthy conversation...
sort it out
Good luck
2006-10-29 05:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by dinqey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna take some time but if he is willing to try again then you may just have a chance. I think you should go slow however and do not rush him or else you could push him away. Tell him how you are feeling and that you will take all the time he needs to heal and that you want a future with him. When you are hurt by someone you love it does take some time to get over the hurt...just make him aware of how you are feeling and take it from there...good luck!
2006-10-29 13:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that his guard is up and don't try to force anything onto him because this will create resistance. By opening your heart and creating an honest dialog with him you may be able to get to the root of how he feels then by having pure intentions toward making your marriage work you can express your vows to him. Remember not to come at him with stern expectations of him melting right then and there. If he needs time to broad over what you have said and how he feels then give him what he needs.
He may or may not take you back. You really can't make him do anything. But my guess is if you sincerely commit your heart to making it work and helping him trust you, the two of you will have some great make up whoppy ;-).
2006-10-29 13:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention what happened to cause the two of you to separate.
If it's something you did then maybe he just needs a little time.
If it something he did then I would suggest leaving the situation along for a little bit. Sometimes a person doesn't realize what he or she has until it's gone.
They say time heals all wounds so give it some time and see what happens. It it was meant to be, it will happen and if not...look at it like it's his loss. Keep your head up and move right along. It's is easier said than done...it know from experience.
2006-10-29 13:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be in touch with him,get his program details and try to see him personally-make a eye contact with him,through the eye invite him into your heart.When going to see him change your entire facial shape,hair,shoes and dress.If possible try to wear a sunglasses amber colored sexy frame.It's trying worth..If he is coming to heal ? Means what? While meeting him first watch from which nose part you are breathing,if it's right or a left select the side and stand next to him according to your breathing habit and talk to him with a mild smile.Don't be shy just discuss something else not about your separation issue.Say How was your Journey? Is your first visit here ? Can I be your guide? and watch his response.Analyze the details and decide what next..
2006-10-29 13:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time. Trust is something you must earn back. But you can. If you all are really in love you will get back together. But first you must earn back his trust. Good Luck!
2006-10-29 13:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change your decision. Don't go back. Don't try to fix what was not good already. Or kiss his but, be sorry, cray and apology and promise to love him forever,
2006-10-29 13:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please sit down and write him a LONG letter apologizing for how U behaved etc. Tell him all your hopes and dreams for the future, but do not beg. He has to think, to gain trust back in you and that will take time.
2006-10-29 13:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be authentic and tell him how you feel. He sounds "gun shy" and probably is hurt and angry with you. Ask him if he would consider going to couples counseling with you.
2006-10-29 13:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking he's got another girl. Try if you want, but this is over.
2006-10-29 13:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋