we really do love each other but he cant change the way he lives and im not sure i really want him living with me any way but not being a proper couple is just causing us problems. what do we do
2006-10-29 05:25:09 · 15 answers · asked by lubalishus21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you can do is accept the answer, with the conclusion you already came up with and move on. Thanks for asking.
2006-10-29 05:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give a clue about what "the way he lives" means. Is he living with somone else? A total slob?
If you have been in a relationship with him for a couple of years or more and you are both single and you both are sure you love each other, the natural thing would be for you to move in together. If you don't want to live with him, I can't see how that can be real love. You may love him but it doesn't sound like you are in love with him. There is a big difference there.
2006-10-29 05:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a proper relationship if you can't even agree on living together. Like you said not being a proper couple is causing you problems but you can't live together so you really should start looking for some one you are compatible with.
2006-10-29 05:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are in LUST rather than in LOVE. True love makes you blind to a persons imperfections and you would accept him for what he is without wanting to change him. If you dont want the man as he is then hes not the man for you xx
2006-10-29 05:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't sound that in love to me - you don't want him to live with you? If you really loved each other you would do anything to be together - unless he is married of course.
2006-10-29 05:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You just live separate lives.. He's the way he is, obviously. You can't change people .. People have to want to change themselves before anything else...
2006-10-29 05:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really do love eachother, you would both compramise. anyway, what do u mean by " not sure i really want him living with me any way"???? you really love him but dont wanna make the commitment and live together?? seems doomed to me...
2006-10-29 05:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him if he wont change his way of life you cant force him otherwise he will resent you only he can change his ways plus if you dont want to live with him you arent all that in love with him anyway
2006-10-29 06:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't work ,does he not want to change his way of life cos he doesn't love you enough?? Think about it !!!
2006-10-29 05:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do one of a few things say goodbye and go your separate ways, try to get used to the wy he lives and make compromises... or stay as you are if you can't live with him..
2006-10-29 05:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋