His parents are spilt *&&* I love going to or places with his dad *&&* step mom but I dread going to his moms b/c I don't think she likes me or her mama...but his step dad seems to like me. They come from upper class *&&* I'm not quite upper class but I'm really a good person!! Please help me!
2006-10-29 05:19:52 · 16 answers · asked by brandi_n_carter2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't make someone like you. All you can do is be yourself. Just be polite & make sure you say "please & thank you" and call her "ma'am". That will show respect.
If she still doesn't like you then you need to have a long talk with your bf if he ever brings up marriage.
2006-10-29 05:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like yourself for they are old enough to see right through ya. Don't kiss up or anything and you will gain respect in the future. Try to start conversations. Ask you love what interests, hobbies, dislikes that person has. Never get into family arguements etc. I know!! Both of my exes were mamas boys but now since time passed I get along with them.
2006-10-29 05:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone like you. Maybe you should keep your distance. If they made that decision that they don't like you then you are not going to change their minds. They will start gossiping about you. Make sure you want to be with someone who comes from a disfunctional family. Maybe they see you as a money grabber. Maybe you ARE a money grabber. You mention in this question about not being upper calss and YOU have said that they come from upper class. So it must be important to you and maybe they see through that.
2006-10-29 05:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by WDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are strange, we all know that. A basic step is to visit a lot and NEVER go empty handed. A small present, flowers, a cake you baked stuff like that.
Another thing is to invite her to dinners with her son of course just to get to know her better.
Another good thing is to visit her at some point."I was just in the neighborhood...." works every time :) and of course ask question about your boyfriend's childhood, see photos etc.
In general you have to prove to her that you love her son, and you are not trying to separate them. And of course you always asking her opinion even on little things
2006-10-29 05:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by netslaveone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating?
Is marriage in the future?
How much time do you spend with his family?
Do they invite you to dinner?
Take flowers.... not $$$ safeway or any food store for 5.00 and 6.00 dollars.
Always help w/the dishes.
Find things they like.....talk about them....or listen...thats the best..
Do you like the way they decorate, shop or find things you might have in common....you already have one...her son/grandson.
Sometimes things like this will help....other times...it won't.
I, like you.....have always tried to just be myself and Knowing that I was a good person was enough for me.
I have friends that couldnt tolerate the in-laws......
Best wishes
2006-10-29 05:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they will like you if they like you. Just be yourself no matter what. Sometimes, for a mother, it is hard to let go of her son to another woman, so there's resentment and sometimes jealousy involved (especially if they are close). So it will take some time. And when I say some time, I don't mean just days and weeks, sometimes it takes years for the mom to warm up to you and like you, sometimes never. So all I can say is don't stress yourself over it and to be yourself. BUT if she is treating you bad, and he's (your man) is letting his mother treat you bad, then she will never have respect for you and it would be time for you to let him go. Good Luck!!
2006-10-29 05:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what. Just be you if his mom doesn't like you so what that is her problem. Never change who you are. If your man loves you that is all that matters. My inlaws for some reason or another doesn't like me. And you know what so what. I take excellent care of my husband, I am a good mother and I am always here. So if they don't like it too bad. U are who u are and that in itself is wonderful
2006-10-29 05:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make her like you. And when it comes to our children, nobody is good enough, especially to moms about thier sons. Just be respectful. its all you can do. Dont try buttkissing either. She will lose any amount of respect that she does have for you.
2006-10-29 05:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? Maybe invite the mom out for a girls day of shopping and lunch. If she gets to know you she might change her mind!!
2006-10-29 06:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by Fussy Duckling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her whenever she's around you... a nice conversation should make her start liking you... oh, don't forget to agree with everything that she says... they love that... but, that doesn't mean you should kiss her ***, no! if she'll feel the same about you, forget about her... i don't think anyone likes their (future in your case) mother-in-laws... good luck...
2006-10-29 05:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by ILuvMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋