i am going around with my boyfriend and i know that he loves me alot and i love him alot too...
but the problem is that his ex has suddenly started talking to him or rather he has started talking to her.....
and they had broken up because he left her...
but some how they have met also and he did not tell me...
i have startedfeeling really insecure.. and i really dont mind his meeting but atleast he should tell me...
tell me what do i tell him...the other thing is that when by chance i just mention my xs name he gets angry...
i really have no clue what to do..
please do help..
2006-10-29 05:13:00 · 15 answers · asked by not so confused soul.. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know he loves me and i know hes not cheating on me.. the thing is i am just very insecure and dont know how to tell him or even confront... and its not breaking up its about insecurity..tell me how do i tell him bout it?????
2006-10-29 05:38:27 · update #1
You must talk to him straight away otherwise this will lead to more misunderstandings. Tell him clearly how you feel, that you are feeling very insecure and are not clear what to make out of all this. Remind him about how he reacts when you mention your ex in his presence. You also feel similarly. Tell him. Talk to him right away.
2006-10-29 05:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by MintyMint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun
I have felt like that in the past you dont want to say to much cause you dont want to come across clingy and smuthering.
I know this is going to be hard but just pretend everything is really really fine just tell yourself he is your man and that this ex is an ex for a reason, but at the same time show him love and joke around about him spending time with her like its funny.
And if you really feel the need to say something wait till your in a really steamy moment thats when men take most thing in and tell him your feeling a bit inscure and that you just need to know that there are no regrets with his break up with his ex.
I'm sure all will be well just try to be smooth it will all work out.
all the best to you i know how you feel will be thinking of you.
2006-10-29 07:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by La diva R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has some crazy double standards there. He gets angry when you mention your ex, but he thinks it is okay to meet his ex-gf without even talkin to you about it? b.s., hun, total b.s.
The only advice that I can offer you is to be upfront on your feelings. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't know, then how can he know it bothers you? well. that's obvious. haha.
You both need to be totally honest with each other. No secrets. That'll just destroy a relationship. I never keep stuff from my husband. It's the both of you together...you should be able to tell each other anything. And if he can't see that.....then he's not for you and he's not a good boyfriend.
2006-10-29 05:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by ProfessorFarnsworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
!st of all as u told us tht u know ur bf loves you too and if u r really damn sure abt it then therez no thing to worry about, But one thing is that you do need to clear with him as in why he didnt tell you that he has started meeting his ex again and u can try being witth him whenever he meets his ex, their behaviour with eachother and their talks will help u know their minds better.
2006-10-29 05:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Worst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend broke up with the ex why...thts a big thing..
if he started to tlak to her again it could mean many things...like they just friends now....friends that are just talking again after a break up....
or
not to freak you out or anything but he could have a little something inside of him still there for her?
k well anyways..you just can't assume anything cuz you don't really know his side of the story..
get together with him and talk to him...tell him whats up and how you know about him meeting his girlfriend...ask why he didn't say anything to you about it etc etc...see wht he has to say, be open minded and just judge from there with what you should do...
2006-10-29 05:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by lil_flirt_57<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell him to hit the road.
What right does he have to get all hot under the collar when you mention your ex BUT HE GOES AND SEES HIS????
You need to figure out if this guy and all his baggage is worth it to you. He sounds like a control freak to me. Hey, that's okay for him...but for God's sakes, don't let him control you or your life. Dump him.
2006-10-29 05:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got problems. relationships in the best sense are about equitable exchanges of power. This isn't that. He's in the process of checking out on you. The fact he left his old girl for you is an indicator that he's done this before, and he'll do it again.
2006-10-29 05:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ought to be trustworthy and tell him which you like him as a chum and which you do no longer sense that way approximately him,and do it as quickly as conceivable, so he can circulate on and locate that distinctive guy or woman and the two one among you are able to remained the very ideal of acquaintances.
2016-12-28 07:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by bruss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to think over the whole & take a decision, i think he don't loves u as he is hiding things from u. u better talk to him clearly abt the matter & then decide.
2006-10-29 05:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either cheating on you or he will Why else is he talking to his ex. Dump him
2006-10-29 05:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋