Would You Say Girls Are Harder To Raise Than Boys?

Question

Or is it about equal? It seems that during childhood and adolescence, boys are the ones that get the most freedom and they get to do things a lot earlier than girls do. I know that I didn't start driving until I was a senior in high school, while my brother was allowed to drive when he was just a sophmore. He was given a lot more freedom than I ever was...although I was older. Is this because, girls are seen as needing more protection and sheltering than guys are? Does this urge to protect and shelter girls, make it more difficult for parents to raise them than boys?

Answer 1

IMHO, it is because parents want to shelter their daughter, and see the boys as more able to take care of themselves. My parents were divoirced, my mother let me do as I pleased, as long as it was under her supervision....so I felt very trapped. My dad let me do whatever...and it was a nice change, although it pushed my mother and I apart. Girls tend to appear more fragile, and I think that leads to us wanting to protect them. Now that I have one of each, I try hard not to let gender roles influence how I raise them. There doesn't seem to be much difference in difficulty between them though. *Unless u count that my daughter wants to go into every store we pass and buy everything she can reach*

Answer 2

I don't think one is harder to raise than the other but it is definitly different between the two. My son is a lot more spirited than my girls and is into everything and likes the dirt better than a toy, my step son is 13 and is more likely to go his own way. My daughters and step daughter have all learned that tears can get you a lot when dad is around so the "drama queen" statement is so true. With boys go shopping for school clothes get them t-shirts and jeans and they are happy go with a girl and expect an all day fight. I grew up with 2 older brothers they were allowed to go out more, stay out later all of that and when I complained to my parents my dad said firmly I don't have to worry about them going out and getting pregnant. I think parents see it as their daughters are more innocent and the boys are going to take asvantage so theyhave to protect them. As far as the expense girls might cost more on clothes but a lot less on insurance. In the end it all balances out.

Answer 3

Hi Libra,
I'm a Teacher, and I do not believe that girls are harder to raise.There is an old saying that "Black mothers love their sons, and they raise their daughters"..The reason why black boys are given so many privileges is because many of them are catered to and spoiled by their mothers and grandmothers...I'll bet any amount of money that when your brother became a young man, he probably turned into the stereotypical, irresponsible black young man. How many kids did he have and with how many women? Did he finish school or drop out? How much money did he borrow from your Mom and Grandma without paying it back?
And does he even have a job now or does he live you with Mom or Grandma without working and paying any of the bills?...Yeah, I know, how dare I say these things right? I see it happen in many families and I wish this would stop.
Just make sure that you give your sons responsibilities and high expectations that you would expect from a daughter. Make sure they have chores and a job by the time they turn 16, and give them 1 household bill to pay.Let them know that you wont be their surrogate Mother to any children they make with "babies mommas"--and you just might produce a wonderful man like Barack Obama. Our black men have GREAT potential, but we have to expect MORE from them, instead of catering to them because they are Cute.
Peace

Answer 4

I wouldnt say either is easy but definately see different mistakes being made with each

girls are often encouraged to be shop ahololics, spoilt, whiney, or princesses

boys are often encouraged to be agreesive, sexual, bullies

by "encouraged" I mean indirectly and through inaction against those behaviors and through TV

parents of boys who rough house make the excuse "boys will be boys" and parents of girls who become self absorbed are to blame by putting too much emphasis on calling her "pretty" when she was young

personally I see alot of messed up teens - the problems lie in how they were raised (or not raised) for the first 5 years.....

Answer 5

I have three grown daughters. It was a handful raising them and I did it alone, I can't say it was hard, but it was an adventure, that I would not have missed for the world. From what I have observed from many of my friends who have sons, I am thankful that God gave me all girls. Yes there are different problems and things to ponder with girls as is the same with boys. It all depends on the individuals raising them and how comfortable they are with themselves.

Answer 6

They are equally hard. They both have their own challenges and rewards. As a mother, the gender of my children has nothing to do with the protectiveness I feel toward them... toward both of them. I don't know why your parents had such different standards. Perhaps it had more to do with your brother being younger than being a boy? I think a lot of times parents do relax standards for younger children. Or maybe it had to do with your brother's & your personalities. I probably give my daughter more freedoms than my son becuase she is more reliable and I can trust her to respect the boundaries I set for her.

Answer 7

I have 3 kids but my boy is still to young to be able to compare. But my hubby comes from a family of 6 boys and 1 girls and his mother tells me that 1 girl was harder than the 6 boys. Girls are emotional and drama queens and they hold grudges. Boys hit move on and forget about it

Answer 8

I raised two daughters and one son, for me the girls were much easier to raise, my son was always doing what he wasn't supposed to be doing, he never got into any real trouble, just always doing things that boys do, like fighting, throwing rocks at windows, getting hurt, cutting up in class and so on, on the other hand my daughters engaged in more peaceful endeavors, give me girls anytime.

Answer 9

the place did the stereo form of boys being lazy, smelling undesirable or being slower come from? I actually have a splash boy who isn't in simple terms very dazzling and does not smell, he additionally likes to help around the living house and do issues. he's likewise 14 months outdated and potty coaching all waiting on his very own interest point and doing nicely with it. i think of sterotyping or gender-typing toddlers into issues because of the fact "their a boy they are going to be sluggish and undesirable at this" or "females are smarter and nicer" etc... is a gaggle of hooey. all of it comes right down to their genetic character and how they're raised via what you assume and settle for of their habit. in case you advance a infant without expectancies different than mediocracy or "do what you sense" laziness then assume to get that out of a infant. in case you advance them with greater expectancies of being greater effective and doing their maximum suitable, assume it in return. i've got been around sufficient toddlers, alongside with my own, to be attentive to there are some females that are subject-free going and intensely dazzling and grounded (as nicely as boys on that very same point) and then there have been others which have been in simple terms thoroughly impossible to handle because of the fact they did no longer care, does no longer attempt or which have been apathetic to each and every little thing.

Answer 10

Boys are easier to raise than girls. Girls cost more money. They are hormonal and cry. They are drama queens. They have more predators out there where guys can take care of them selves. They get over thigs faster.