I've been dating my guy for 8 months now, and he never complained. He even says I'm look hotter each and every day. But I met my male friend this afternoon, and he said I look like a slob. He insisted that I looked awful and told me that he was surprised that my boyfriend didn't dump me. I was really ticked off. I told my boyfriend about this and he said that I should never listen to that kind of remarks because he thinks I look great. But it bugs me because I've read an article about women tending to be careless about their appearances once they're comfortable with their significant other. Is this myth really true?
2006-10-29 04:45:50 · 15 answers · asked by girliegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yup! At first, you want to look just like you stepped out of a salon every time you see him. But, after a certain period of time, you don't feel the need to try to look like that all the time, because you know that he loves you for you. He's seen you at your best, and at your worst, and still loves you and the way you look...so that's all that counts. You can still look nice, you just don't have to try to dress yourself up to look "super modelish" all the time. The man that truly loves you will love you whether you're in a skirt, or in sweat pants. Screw what your friend thinks, he's not the one you're in a relationship with.
2006-10-29 04:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well woman do tend to get "COMFORTABLE" when they are in a relationship and stop caring about the way they look. Now the guy of course is going to tell you that you look great because he knows if you don't then noone else is going to try and hit on you. It is the mans security blanket. Keep your self esteem up, but knowing you have let yourself go. If your friend says that you have let yourself go, then you probably have, get it together and be who you were when you met your man.
2006-10-29 04:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little... In the beginning of my relationship, I would NEVER let him see me in sweat pants / without makeup. Now, he sees me that way very often. I do it because I see him so much, and when I'm just at his place, I want to hang out in comfortable clothes. Also, I sleep there every night, and it's uncomfortable to always be in tight jeans, heals, and a little shirt.
I'm not more sloppy, I'm just comfortable enough to wear sweat pants around him. And when I'm in public, I carry myself the same as I would have had I been single.
2006-10-29 04:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think women don't worry about there appearance as much when they are comfortable in a relationship but if your man says you look good then believe him. As for your male friend he can have his own opinion but he isn't the one you care to impress. Maybe he is just jealous.
2006-10-29 04:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by heartofgold272 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and why shouldn't it be. When you meet the right person you soon move beyond just looks. There is so much more in a good relationship! Your bf is right ignore the other guy and believe your bf. Good luck but it doesn't sound like you need it!
2006-10-29 04:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be true in some cases, we tend to get too comfortable. I think you should just make a point of keeping yourself nice - especially for yourself! That is what I do. I mean, I want others to notice, but I also want to look good for myself (self esteem).
2006-10-29 04:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think for the most part men and women that have been in a relationship for awhile do let themselves go. Not because they don't care but that they realize they are cared for but not just for their looks. Their relationships have evolved into something more permanent and real.
2006-10-29 05:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my sisters been dating this guy for 8 months and every time she goes out with him she wakes me up and asks me how she looks. She makes an effort for him but when she's single she doesn't really mind what she looks like. Mind you she could look good in a bin bag
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2006-10-29 04:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be careless about ur appearance as a woman
but don't listen to those thing which make ur busy for nothing
2006-10-29 04:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by behnoush_k_1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well everything isn't always true for every person, but this is very true for alot of women. Especially married women, or stay at home moms whom don't have alot of time each for personal maintenance.
2006-10-29 04:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋