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The mother calls on and off to speak to the baby and requests for him to bring the baby to see her (which half the time she never shows up) He brings the child to mcdonalds or somewhere to meet her. should i allow this? the interaction between him and the mother? should i be jelous of their bond? i do love him and don't want to leave him over this. i just have concerns emotionally. any advice would help. thanks!

2006-10-29 04:38:37 · 13 answers · asked by uwantdismomi 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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You shouldn't be jelous but if it is a problem talk to your husband about the way it makes you feel when he goes and see's her. And talk to your husband about having the baby's mom come and pick her up once in awhile.

2006-10-29 04:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by karrahbissett11 4 · 0 0

Wow! That's exactly what I'm going throught right now!! First of all...don't be jealous. He's with you. Not her. They have to be friendly with each other for the kids sake. Whenever they do actually agree to meet up, you should tag along and go as a couple. Just be there for him and his kid. I definitely understand how you feel, but you also have to know that whatever happened between them was in the past. And you're his present and possibly his future. You have to develop a good relationship with his child. And don't worry so much about the mother, she can't hurt you. Just make sure that you tell him everything that you're feeling, be open with him. He'll appreciate it.
I stand by my boyfriend through it all, and he even told me that he wishes his child was mine.
Good luck!!
p.s. If you really love him...don't let ANYTHING get in between you!

2006-10-29 12:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by imasooite 2 · 0 0

I think you need to learn to accept that they will always have a connection because of the child. That means you have no right to say yes or no so long as the child is not being abused. They're the child's parents, you aren't.

Don't be jealous. Just realize that you can't be a part of it or control it.

In fact, if you push this issue, you'll probably break up. And your boyfriend would have the right to do so because any child must come before everything else. Including you.

2006-10-29 13:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

no you should not leave him over this at all. as a matter of fact i think that you need to do more to be involved.you are helping take care of this little boy,right? so, why not ask if you could tag along when he takes the kid to meet her? i don't see why that would be a problem. now if he tells you no you cant go then there is a problem. not because he has feelings for this girl, but because you are a part of his and his child's life. and everyone involved needs to except that. so, give it a try, if he wont let you go then you need to point out the facts.

2006-10-29 12:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0 0

Why would you be jealous? Leave him for what? Allow it? You have major issues.
Why don't you support and encourage him. He has custody of his child and the mother will always be there. One way or another. You better get on the stick and get your relationship on track. Bond with the little-one yourself and strengthen your relationship with your "boyfriend". Grow up. You're going to have a lot more in store to deal with in the future with this guy and his child. You better get tickets for Dr. Phil.

2006-10-29 13:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0 0

the mother as a right to be in the childs life after all shes the one that gave birth. dont be jelous their as to be interactins between the 2 thay have had a child together, that need to know what going on in that childs life and be apart of it.

2006-10-29 12:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by red_star_56 4 · 0 0

If u really love the child u dont allow the mother


or just leave the child to the mother that she takes care

if she really gets the child she is really affectionate to the chil. or you just have the child.

2006-10-29 12:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by mohan_kirupasankar 2 · 0 0

Try not to be jealous even thou that maybe hard. He needs to have a descent relationship with his child's mother for the child's sake. Try to be supportive. Good luck!

2006-10-29 12:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0 0

Listen if you can not handle it leave. It would not be very smart for you to try to control his action as far as his child goes. She left them and he probably does not want her back if he is with you. They meet in a completely public place. Stop worrying or move on.

2006-10-29 12:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0 0

OMG~ you have no say in what he does with his child... Of corse he is going to have to deal with his EX... she is the mother of his child... she has the right to see her child as much as anyone does. You need to stop being so selfish and just sit back and shut up and deal with your mentail disabilitys. he is doing what any good father would.

So be there for him, and stop trying to come between his childs happyness!

2006-10-29 12:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 1 0

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