So I think me and this guy might secretly like each other, but it's SO hard to tell! I mean, I'm not gonna be the one to innitiate a relationship, but I don't know if he ever will either. He's shorter than me, and about the shyest guy I've ever met. I'm one of the few girls he'll really talk to though, even if that is a minimal. What do I do? I don't think I can open up and tell him my true feelings, but I'm aching to do it--and aching for him to grow about 4 inches! What do I do? (BTW, he's older than me)
2006-10-29 04:34:38 · 10 answers · asked by lizzer190 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first talk to him.. may be he is just a friend and nothing else.. second take a deep breath, look at what you've gone through search to see if that really looks like a relationship
2006-10-29 04:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to ask him outright, start inviting him to group functions. Maybe suggest coffee or drinks afterwards, or getting something to eat. See what his interests are, so you know if there is anything you have in common. Then start inviting him out for lunch, maybe pick up the tab so that he'll feel obligated to return the favor. Take things slow and don't rush things otherwise he may bolt. If the height difference bothers you, then don't wear heels when you are with him on "dates". He's probably even more uncomfortable if there is such a big height difference. Also is he a lot older than you, that could be another reason he hasn't made a move on you.
2006-10-29 05:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kainoa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you do what many a guy would do if you want to take it to the next level. Invite him over for dinner and just happen to have all the ingredients set up for a little romance!! You know something that starts innocent enough, you could cook something together and eat with a little wine then watch a movie with some after dinner snack that requires a shared plate or dipping sauce ... something so you can sit next to each other. Then let the night go where it does.
Repeat if necessary.
Oh and about his height .... get over it and see his inner worth or don't do anything with him. You don't want the fact that your a twit to hang over the relationship from day one.
2006-10-29 04:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those "your damned if you do, your damned if you don't". You shouldn't out right come out and tell him your true feelings immediatly, because this might off put him, especially if he is shy. You should continue to talk to him, and maybe gradually lead your intentions on to him. If it gets to a point where you feel you can tell him, or just can't take it anymore, tell him. It might hurt if he doesn't feel the same way, and it's fun having a crush, but theres nothing worst than looking back and thinking "what if?".
2006-10-29 04:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all, dont let his heighth get in the way of anything, if you like him .. you like him and thats all there is to it. secondly, he's obvioulsy shy so theres a good chance that he wont come out and say anything about how he feels and if he does.. it problly wont be for a while. so, my advice to you is to just go for it and tell him how you feel so if theres anything there .. youll both know and he will be more comfortable telling you how he feels since you told him. it iss ok for the girl to ask the guy.
2006-10-29 04:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, height shouldn't matter. I think you should talk to him and hang out with him. Try to slowly add more elements (like phone calls or hanging out on weekends or whatever) to your relationship and see how he reacts. If he reacts well, go for it. If he secretly likes you, he'll want to see you more. So go for it already!
2006-10-29 04:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nikolai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 23:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your going to have to make the first move if hes that shy. I know you dont want to but someone has to.
Cant suggest anything for making him grow taller apart from stretching on a rack as seen in carry on movies.
2006-10-29 04:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should try and probe him a little to see where his head is at..if u think he mite like u...then maybe ur rite....try and see if he is interested by his body language and behavior when he is around u...those things may tell alot without him having to verbally come out and tell u how he feels...
2006-10-29 04:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting a relationship requires talking.
If neither one of you can speak up....nothing's going to happen.
If he's still growing you guys must be very young.....give it time.
2006-10-29 04:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋