What can I do about my guilty conscience?

Question

I did something bad, and I feel disgusted with myself. Everytime I think about it I get a panic attack and my hands are all sweaty and they still are right now. I need to tell someone, and that someone is my mom, but whenever I think about it, I know she'll be VERY MAD, and I get scared thinking of what she will do.

I can't eat & I can't sleep without feeling terrible.
What can I do?

What I did is probably both a religious sin, & a typical teen thing to do.

Which is why I'm so disgusted with myself.

Oh, & for the people who've asked me what I did, can you please IM me?

Answer 1

don't avoid talking to her. you're body is making you feel like crap because it knows that what you did was wrong. you're not ever going to feel better unless you tell your mom. you're body is punishing yourself, the longer you wait, the more it adds up.
just tell your mom, it'll be ok!

Answer 2

Wow, you have to begin to heal from this. Guilt is not something that God wants us to hold on to..Whatever you did, you will be Forgiven for by God and your Mom. Even if you killed someone, your Mom would forgive you..Please stop beating up on yourself, as you already know that what you did was wrong and you wont do it agian. What did you do? Did you kill someone and bury them in the backyard or something? Did you do drugs? Or, did you have consentual sex with her boyfriend (not your dad)? Those are the only 3 things that would devastate a mother..If you didnt do that--then let this go, ask God to forgive you, and try to move on...But if you did have sex with your Mom's boyfriend, then this is SERIOUS and you need to tell her and call the police on him. And if you did Drugs, then you should tell your Mom. Drugs will ruin your life, and you need counceling if you did drugs. Drugs are the WORST. I've seen so many pretty young women end up as wasted old hags because of drugs.

But realize that we ALL have done something that was dumb, stupid and dangerous at one point in life--all of us. The key is to realize that it was wrong, pray, and not do it agian. Maybe you should schedule a talk with your Mom if you really think it would help, or write her a letter. OR, maybe you should wait a few months and see if you feel better about it. Girl, you'll be fine, we've all been there.

Peace

Answer 3

I have been there before and honestly the best thing you can do is talk to your mom about whatever it is she may be mad for a while but the sooner you tell your mom the sooner you can feel better and relieved and its good that whatever the issue is bothers you your mom will see how bad you feel and genuine you are being but the longer you go on the harder it is and I dont think you want to live with this and go on with life and act like nothing happened your mother is always going to love you and whatever it is you guys will work through it I know from experiance

Answer 4

Sometimes you need to face up to what you think is right to clear a guilty conscience even though it is not easy to do. To every problem is a solution some good and some bad.

Before you tell her, say that you have done something real bad and you feel real terrible about it and ask for her forgiveness

You are only human and humans make mistakes

I hope all works out for the best hun

Answer 5

The way to deal with guilt is to change. If you did something bad and you make an intense effort to change, then every time you do something good, in a similar sphere of experience, it erodes the guilt because it makes you not the type of person who does that anymore.

Let's say you are married. You cheat on your husband. You are wracked with guilt and have no idea what to do. But, knowing that you did something bad, you determine that you don't want to be the type of person who does bad things like that anymore. With resolve, you start taking every opportunity available to be good to your husband and be a good wife and mother. You make your marriage a happy one and no longer feel guilty because you are no longer the type of person who cheats on her husband anymore.

You understand? The guilt belongs to a different person. You changed from that person, into someone else. The very act of taking a small step away from that old you who would do the bad thing, makes you feel better. As you do it more and more, feeling better lasts longer and longer, until the guilt can't have any hold over you anymore.

There is a name for that. It's called redemption. It's a major part of the human condition.

Answer 6

It all depends on what you did really. You sound quite young to me, so is it a religious sin or a typical teenage dilemma?

Think about it, because what would be worse; a brief slap on the wrist, or a possible life time of guilt?

Tell your mom and get it over with, she'll probably guess theres something wrong and she will wheedle it out of you eventually

Answer 7

That your conscience hurts you is a very good sign of your good morality and actually is the first step towards redemption. The first thing you have to do is to ask forgiveness from Allah (God). He says in Quran: " Say: O my servants! who have acted extravagantly against their own souls, do not despair of the mercy of Allah; surely Allah forgives the faults altogether; surely He is the Forgiving the Most Merciful." So ask Him with a broken heart to forgive you (specially in the last hours of night before dawn) and never get despaired from the mercy of God. He says in another verse " And when My servants ask you concerning Me, then surely I am very near; I answer the prayer of the suppliant when he calls on Me, so they should answer My call and believe in Me that they may walk in the right way"

Concerning your mother, be assured that if God had forgiven you, He will satisfy your mother since all the hearts are in His hands and He controls them as He wills.

Answer 8

You can't get in your mom's head so you don't know how she will react. You think you know but to be sure you need to tell her. If you are truly remorseful for what you did and let her know she should be understanding. Is there someone else you can tell first?? like a preist or clergy?? he may be able to stand by you when you tell your mom to give you support. if not just sit down and tell her. be completely honest and it should go ok.

peace&hope

Answer 9

oh hunni you poor thing. the only thing you can do is fess up it will make you feel so much better.
your may be angry at first but she will calm down then youll be able to talk properly.
you didnt sy exactly what it is youve done but nothing can be that bad not even getting pregnant!!!
there is a solution to ever problem angel

Answer 10

Your mother is not as bad as you think, I know my daughter was the same way. As a parent I've told my kids that I may not like what they say to me but I'll listen, that they make not like what I say but we're family and that's what families do...so say your peace, listen, and remember, they do love you.