I'm thirteen and my mom is such a fag.[but i love her.] So I was at a party the other night and one of the single most hottest boy in my class asked me to dance, so I said yes. The party was coming to an end and guess who is standing at the window to see me and this adorable boy grinding... my mom. She was so completely appauled she has locked me in the house and when I ever I try to escape, the alarm goes.
Guess what else?
He called to see what had happened and if I wanted to go out with on friday. My mom disconnected the phone.
Help me. Please.
2006-10-29 04:22:00 · 17 answers · asked by xoxsugarrbabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That suckssssssss. About the same thing happened to me. I'm 15 and my mom won't let me do anything on my own because she's afraid I might go and have sex with my boyfriend. She makes me go everywhere with her, the bank, supermarket, WORK, etc. It's so annoying and she disconnected all the phones in our house too. Luckily for you hun, you get to see this guy at school. She can't bother you there.
2006-10-29 04:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mom understands more than you know. Do you know how much you have scared her by grinding with this boy? That was a big mistake, even if you didn't expect her to be there. This is what is going through her head" Oh my God, if she does this on the dance floor what will she do with him on a date?". You have got to not just tell your parents you are a responsible person, you have to show them. And I take it that since you have been locked in your room that you haven't shown any responsibility towards your own welfare. I am not speaking to you as a parent because I'm not one. Why did I choose not to be one? Because I never wanted to put up with the crap that I put my parents through, which is exactly what you are doing. Stop thinking of yourself for a bit and try talking to your mom.
2006-10-29 12:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is reacting in a strong manor.... there def needs to be some more verbal communication.... but she is doing it because she LOVES YOU! and because you are thirteen and grinding on cute boys!!! your mom is not an idiot, and she knows what happens when cute girls and boys start grinding on each other and she is trying to protect you.
why don't you talk to her about sex and boys. let her know that although you were at this party having a good time, you still value your virginity and you aren't taking your priveledges for granted. let her know that by doing these things she is pushing you away, when you want to be close to her, and you would rather have a relationship with her that allowed communication and trust.
first, however, you need to realize where she is coming from as well. she loves you more than herself, and really is doing this for a good reason... you need to give her credit and respect that, and try to build a relationship on trust with her.
2006-10-29 12:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom probably knows what little control teens can have when it comes to sexual temptations such as grinding while dancing. also, in doing that, one partner could think that the other partner would go further. its very important that you tell the boy that you will not go further and that the grinding was not good judgement and should not continue, for the reasons i just stated. you will be SO happy you waited :) :) good luck
2006-10-29 12:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you coming from, i'm 15. But you at 13 have absolutly no need to be grinding with boys. You have no need to even have a boyfriend. Your mom is right. And trust me she does understand she just doesn't want bad things to happen to you.
2006-10-29 12:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by hodagwriter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand what your going through. my mom and dad say that they trust me, they just don't trust other people. i was at a party that was boring and wanted to go to a different one with my friend. the hottest freshman was there, and had broken up with his girlfriend the day before, he was single! he told my friend to bring me cause he thought i was hot,so i wanted to go, the guys' who's party it was goes to my friends church, and his parents were there. my parents still wouldn't let me go, all because they think i'll be like my older brother, into drugs, and bad stuff, but i would never do that, i'm 14, and i can't go to a party, unless i keep my cell on, my mom calls the person's who's throwing the party and is sure parents are there, they make me get picked up an hour early, and they have to see what i'm wearing, it drives me crazy!
2006-10-29 12:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by chihuahuakisses4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is just trying to protect you and keep you from doing things you might regret later in life. Alot of we older ladies didn't have a chance to have mom there to correct our ridiculous behavior. At that age I wasn't even thinking about "grinding" with a guy!
2006-10-29 13:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello you are 13 for goodness sake. don't mean to be patronizing but at 13 and grinding away, well if i was your mum id be very disappointed, you have the rest of your life to live and experience good and bad whats the rush to grow up....sorry but your a little girl enjoy being a child while it lasts. And go easy on your mum everything she does is to protect and care for you.
2006-10-29 13:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by kubla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 13 years old and still a child. She did whats right as a parent. She doesn't have to understand anything. You're too young to be "grinding" with anyone for any reason.
2006-10-29 13:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, first of all you have no right to call your mother ***.
She loves you so very much, no one ...no one in world will ever love you as much as she does, and that is why she wants you the best and does not want you to damage your future, try to see thing on her eyes, she does not know your relationship with that boy and may be the way the the boy was behaving was not as honest as you was thinking, sometimes we can not see things clearly.
respect your mom and try to understand that she wants you the best of all.
and remember no boys in the world worth your moms worry and sadness ,and also your future
talk to your mom.... be nice and respectful
Good luck
2006-10-29 13:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋