how can I calm my son down without putting him on pills?

Question

he is 3 and just has to touch everything he sees, he grabbed a skillet of bacon grease 8 months ago and will still go for stuff on the stove.

Answer 1

Relax moms survive age 3 all the time. He doesn't need pills or meds, he's a 3 year old. Here's a few things that should help.
1: Avoid the Anything with sugar or caffeine.
2: Children respond to their environment, Play soft music and do activities that don't over stimulate him.
3: Avoid too much television. At 3, he shouldn't watch more than 30 minutes a day max. The movement can cause him to become over anxious and more active.
4: Keep things that are or can be dangerous out of sight. If he knows you don't want him to touch it. It's more likely that he's going to find that a challenge. So Keep this in mind. If he goes for something that can be harmful, distract him with a toy or activity in stead.
Remember that he is only 3 years old. Everything is exciting. He's going to be active, outgoing and into a lot, but he's learning. If you find that he is too much to handle. Sit down with him and do a quiet activity or make him sit down for a few minutes without playing with anything. This will work as long as you stick to it. The more you try to force him to be calm the more he's going to act out. So when he's doing donuts in the living room and for the 15th time has climbed on top of the table, remember to remain calm and soon he'll grow out of this stage.

Answer 2

Three year olds are very tactile people. I agree about using the back burners. You could also try to get him involved. Perhaps he could help tear up the lettuce for the salad or some other easy task. He's just curious about everything and can't see what your doing up there. I used to let my kids sit on a stepladder a safe distance from the stove so that they could watch me cook. My daughter started "helping" me in the kithchen by age 4. She's 13 now and quite capable as Jr. Chef! Keep the things he shouldn't have out of his reach or behind closed doors until he's old enough to understand that somethings are just dangerous or too delicate to be played with. If he just doesn't listen to you when you tell him to leave something be, then you have a discipline problem. Be consistent and fair and you'll work through that.

Answer 3

Time for the gloves to come off!! You are the proud mother of a hard headed boy. He has already demonstrated this by not learning his lesson from the first time he went for the skillet of bacon grease. He continues to go for it, and seems destined to learn life's lessons the hard way. Ideally, I would agree with some of the other answers here... talking to him, coddling him.... but just how much do you think he's comprehending here?? YOU are the parent, and YOU will have to take control of this young man. This almost seems like a power struggle between you two..... you say no...and he does it anyway. You might have to play a little rougher in order to gain his respect and attention. You could slap his hands a few times now.... or make some trips to the Emergency Room later. I think he would appreciate knowing that you are in control, and will correct him as severely as you have to to protect him. You can ease off the strictness later... after he respects when you say NO and realizes that you mean business and will back it up. Right now he's testing his limits with you, and will push you as far as you allow him to.

Answer 4

I raised 2 boys now 18 and 20 They were very rotten and many times thought they should be on pills but that's boys.

One thing you can do is look at there diet and how there time is structured I have learned alot from the show super nanny some of her ideas do work!

Answer 5

Try not to yell. I know it's the first thing that comes to mind. Explain to him calmly and show him WHY it's dangerous, hot, messy, etc. Take whatever it is and bring his hand close enough to feel the heat, but not close enough to hurt him and Show him. Right now he just thinks you are taking everything away from him. He doesn't understand and that is why he is giving you such a hard time. If you stay calm, so will they. Most of the time. Good Luck

Answer 6

Get everything out of reach,, if he grabbed the skillet then it was not back far enough.Weh my son was that age I cooked oionthe back of the stove for his safety. Ban him from the kitchen while your cooking..

Answer 7

First of all check what you are feeding him, anything with sugars which there is alot even McDonalds Food as alot of sugars, and check your drinks for red dye it will make kids aggressive acting. But for the most part that is a kid try when he wants something letting him see it as long as it doesn't hurt him, explain to him what it is or why it will hurt him . Children are great and can learn anything you are willing to teach them.

Answer 8

Just say no to DRUGS. At 3 he is just curious, let him help you prepair dinner. give him a butter knife so he doesn't get hurt tell him you need him to peal the potato's, even if you don't want them for your dinner it will take him a while to get it done so you can get yours done. OH but you will have to cook it if it is just to mash up and let him feel like he is helping mommy.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

He needs an outlet for his energy and curiosity. Take him outside and play with him until he's tired. Also limit sugar intake and enforce rigid discipline (not harsh, but consistant).

Please don't drug your child. It is a 'band aid' that will make your child disfunctional and substance dependent.