2006-10-29 03:35:58 · 45 answers · asked by US 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-29 03:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by janny1214832000 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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What law says you have to do ANYTHING sexual with someone that is not your HUSBAND?
In other words, the choice is YOURS. You can just kiss, or you can go as far as is comfortable for you.
Clue: He's your X !!!!
Obviously you were right to decide against more sexual things with someone that could leave you so easily !!!
RESPECT is a part of true LOVE.
Sure any man wants to get his hands all over a girl that is willing...but she is likely NOT the girl he will marry, or respect at all...
if you only have SEX as the whole of your relationship, it will likely last only about 8 weeks
before he tires of you.
To have a lasting relationship, you don't need a lot of sex...you need a lot of the most important part of a TRULY LOVING relationship:
Respect
Equal caring and sharing, and fairness
Being more than sexual = being best friends
Understanding
Trust in the relationship
Able to talk to each other about anything
Comfort with each other
A bit of spice and lots of fun
If you don't have all of the above, to go along with the "sexual attraction" the relationship will fizzle very soon.
People that get married for the sexual attraction alone soon divorce.
Your relationship with this guy was doomed from the beginning, because it did not have all the elements that hold a relaitonship together long term.
Get to know yourself, so that you know who you are, and you can freely
project that personality into your next relationship in a fun and spicy way.
NEVER be a doormat
Don't be a b i t c h
Just be spicy, fun, and loving
but also don't take any demands from him.
Be YOU, whatever that is...
only then will you have a long-term relationship with the RIGHT guy.
When you are being YOU, you will probably date a few that come and go; but when you meet the right one, he will come and stay.
I wish you love
stw
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2006-10-29 03:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how old you are. if you are 13 and he's trying then it is his problem, do not do anything you do not want to do. If you are 30 been married and divorced then it may be an issue you need to seek counseling about. Not that it is really a problem, but there could be some underlying medical condition that keeps you from having a healthy woman's libido. If he is your ex because you did not want to have sex with him, move on, that is all he was after- if he is your ex, and wants sex now, tell him to go take a flying leap! In Any case never have sex because some one else wants you to, IT'S YOUR BODY- and if you respect your body you'll only have sex when it is right for the both!!
2006-10-29 03:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by SKayeMesqTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's your ex, what do you care?
Or is he your ex because he's angry with you because you won't do sexual things?
Either way, sex is a pretty big deal. Don't ever let anyone try to push you into anything you don't feel comfortable with!
There are tons of really nice (attractive, intelligent) guys out there who are more than willing to wait until their woman feels ready. Don't settle for anything less!
In this instance I suspect that the problem is primarily, if not totally his.
However, if you feel really shy about a lot of stuff, is there anyone you can talk with -- a best girlfriend, sister, doctor, school counsellor -- about your concerns? (A problem shared is a problem halved...or more!)
Sex with love and the right person can be AMAZING!
Good luck!
2006-10-29 03:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by pat z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean you're too shy to be more aggressive during sex, or you're too shy to even have sex? Either way it's you're problem and you aren't alone. I'm not very aggressive when it comes to sex either and my boyfriend gets annoyed by it. Maybe the reason you're too shy is because you didn't feel comfortable in the relationship? But really, he's your x so his opinion of how you are sexual shouldn't really be important unless you can learn from it. If he truly respected he wouldn't have broken up with you for that reason, that seems like a cop out of something he was too scared to tell you. Just tell yourself you're sexy, put on your sexiest outfit, go out with friends, and strut your stuff because it will make you feel a whole lot better. :)
2006-10-29 03:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's his/her problem, because you are not comfortable enough with this guy to do something like that. I mean he's probably making you feel uncomfortable about for the way he's approaching you with it. I've been in that position before, and so I got with a guy that didn't pressure me into things I didn't wanna do, because of numerous reasons, and so I have a great sex life now, because I can do sexual things and not feel shy or guilty. So it's his/her problem.
2006-10-29 03:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by she_creature101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First what does it matter if hes mad he is your X.now for you it takes two peoples to engage in sexual activity and so therefore you both has to be in agreement of new situations because if you are truly in love with the person shy or not the love you feel for him and his love as well as gentleness of your body however if you are truly just shy anyway then its your problem and you should seek a counselor for help.
2006-10-29 03:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Ethel T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is the wrong person because the right person makes all the difference I had the same problem with both of my ex's but I am on hubby 3 and I have lost all the shyness a I can do anything he wants but I would never go back to the other two ex's I am a one man woman now only hubby # 3 gets the prize when every he wants it you have to have confidence and my ex's made me feel cheap I was so shy I could not do anything at all but now I feel sexy and not shy I love my man and that is that!!!
2006-10-29 03:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by mel416 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is his problem. If that was his basis for becoming your ex then he is a fairly shallow fellow. He should have had the patience to work through your shyness and tentiveness until you were comfortable with certain things. You may never be comfortable with alot of things, but if he truly loved you he would have understood that.
2006-10-29 03:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by cabjr1961 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand, your "X"??? You still have relations with him? Let me tell you, that is the same reason I have an "X" too (18yrs ago), I never wanted to do the kinkey things he wanted to do, I always felt foolish, ano definately not sexy. I would say he has the problem, not you!
2006-10-29 03:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah why are you doing things with your ex. I think whenever you have a man,. you should be open in anything, Well things that make you confortable anyway. He should respect what your feeling. So if you dont wanna do it don't It's his problem F him.
2006-10-29 03:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by Hairdorable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋