My boyfriend for 3 months, is in the depression . He has been perfect BF until his birthday more than 2 week ago. He got depresed ( midlife crisis) and blew off our last date . and refused to talk to me on the phone at all. I called anyway and found out that he so deep in depression doesn't want to talk to anyone at all ( I don't think he lied) and told me not to call anymore. I asked if he want us to end the relationship, he can't even answer that either ( I don't want to but will be fine ).He said he will call me if he feel better. Not even sure he will call at all. And I am not the type that will dump him at this down time and move on. How long should wait-not hear from him for a week now ? - to move on or to call him? or what else you think I should do?
2006-10-29 03:27:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's telling you not to call, don't call. When he's ready to talk, he'll call.
2006-10-29 03:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by brittondus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be great to say 'it will be over in ___ weeks', but the true answer is it won't. Real depression is a physical condition that needs treatment maybe for a lifetime. If he isn't sure that he will feel better, you can't be either. What you call a midlife crisis is most likely clinical depression. Move on. You are not a physician and can't help him. Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-29 03:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help. I suffer from clinical depression and have done exactly what he has done. Push everyone away. It doesn't mean that you don't care, in fact, it might mean that he cares too much. He is going through something that no one really can understand. But he definitely needs professional help. If you are willing tell him you will help him find the help he needs, but don't think that you can fix him or that things will be the same when he comes out of it.
He needs to see a doctor. Needs someone to talk to that isn't close to him or that will judge him.
You also need to consider your feelings with this. If this is too much for you to handle then you should just move on. Remember you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else!!
2006-10-29 03:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to diagnosed by a doctor for SEVERE depression. They have to go on meds for it. Anyone can get some depression every now and then. Depends on what their personality is and what caused them to get depressed as to how long it lasts. That and whether or not he is just looking for a pity party. Just let him know that you are there if he wants to talk, but DON'T hang around waiting, doing nothing. Just because he doesn't want to do anything does not mean you can't go to a movie or hang out with friends.
2006-10-29 05:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 02:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on before you let yourself get too deep in this and you can't get out. I spent six years with a man who had severe depression. The only reason it took me so long to leave was I was afraid he would kill himself if I did. Eventually I just decided that there as nothing I could do about his happiness, but I could affect my own, so I left him. He never hurt himself like I thought he would. As far as I know he's doing OK.
2006-10-29 03:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by a.kam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 12:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, it's a bummer he's depressed but if he wont let you help there's nothing u can do. move on to someone w/ a little more respect for you.
2006-10-29 03:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dancing with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, honey, sorry to tell you this but, some never recover. You might want to find someone new...no offense...
good luck
2006-10-29 03:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love him then plz help him out .. cll him , meet him and find out the real reasons and help him
2006-10-29 03:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by i i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋